someone please tell me it will be ok

I just had wls little over a month ago..and so much has happened in my life...i just want to know if anyone else has had problems with the one they love after wls...I should be so happy i have almost lost 40lbs..but my bf that i have been with for alomost 7 years is leaving me...he says he doesnt love me anymore...he never really wanted me to get this done...and he still doesnt support me....but the funny thing is now that i have lost weight i feel so much better and happer with myself that im happier with everything..and i think i love him more than ever...but he just doesnt understand....he is moving out this weekend...and i have told him how i feel and how much he means to me and how much i love him...the bad thing is we work together at the same place and see each other all the time...and the other is he is moving in with one of his friends from there...and guess what is a girl...and he knows how much that hurts me....and he has told me that he still wants to be friends but if he moves in with her there is no way i can do that and i told him that...but anyway what im getting at is has anyone had something bad happen like this after they had wls...i guess i just need lots of suppost and for someone to tell me that everything will work out and be ok... Jen

EVERYTHING WILL BE OK!!! He is either feeling insecure OR he likes the other girl. That is what i think anyway... i could be wrong. He should be happy for you. It seems a little to drastic to be insecurity, though. Keep up the good work and all will work out. You will be so much happier a few months from now.

So sorry for what you're going through but I doubt after this short period of time his leaving has anything to do with your surgery. Weather he wanted you to have it or not, you're better off for what you did and soon you will see that and even though it doesn't feel like it now, you'll probably be better off without him. You'll have a whole new life to get used to. Sorry to say, no matter how much you love someone, if they don't love you back, no amount of professing your love will make a difference. On a positive note: After a few months, he's going to be eating his heart out seeing you everyday looking hotter and hotter. If you can get past working with him that is. Good luck Jen, you're in my thoughts.

Jenn I am so sorry you have a CREEP... However, at least he is being honest with you. You are beginning a new journey and need POSITIVE attention. This is probably hard to go through and deal with the emotions of the surgery. Do not let it distract you from your health. YOU are important right now. Let him go........ Get yourself in shape, eat and excercise to reduce the stress. When the others in the office see your transformation he will hear the positive talk of how well you look and how good you look... LEt him eat his heart out.. One door closes another opens.. this is YOU time.... Remove the negativity... don't let the door kick him in the BEEEHINNDDD as he leaves... You got us for support and your self confidence will not be shattered - you will receive positive reinforcement from others... Maybe - there is something better out there for you.... HUGS>>>

Jen, (((HUGS))) This just sux! I feel like I should send my friend "Guido" up there to kick some butt. You hang in there.... everyone has given you great and wise advice. Take it to heart. I personally believe that as we lose weight we are gaining back our self confidence. You will probably land a better catch (hard to believe right now I know) and will look back on this as just another phase in your life. Dealing with the emotions of this, and not having the food to fall back on will probably - has probably - been hard. Keep focused on yourself. Now you can totally be selfish and not worry about anyone else! Keep us posted, and please lean on us for support - we are here for you! HUGS Kimberly