Am so Depressed!!!!!!!!!!!

Am I the only one who's depressed.. I had my operation on 7-25/05.. I have lost 20..lbs.. I had my 2nd doc appointment yesterday. I guess am feeling like am doing something wrong.. I mean my first week after surgery I lost 15 lbs. Then next 2weeks I only lost 5 lbs. I hope am not being selfish.When I left the doctors I was more depressed. I guess I got my hopes up to quick. It's weird that 1 week you lose and the next you don't. I feel that am doing something wrong. Then on top of that I can't whole nothing down but soups and am advanced to meats now. When I think I chewed it up well I didn't,when I think am eating slow enough am not. I am feeling like I want to eat and can't. Am starting to regret this surgery, I know it will get better but when.. I am starting to neglect my friends.. I don't want to be bothered. There think am acting funny because am losing weight but that's not it, I just want to be by myself right now. I have my 2 boys that I love spending time with because they don't judge me. It seems everyone wants to be nosey instead of friendly.This surgery is not a competition for me. I wanted to get healthier!!! Any comments for me?

Marlene- Hugs! I can relate! I have suddenly began feeling depressed myself. I have been so upbeat and cheery until the last couple of days. I think lately what is getting me down is having to deal with foods that don't go down right. I think I thought as long as I was good and had my protein- I wouldn't have to work so hard to find foods to eat. But I was WRONG! Also, I feel like I have been doing everything "right" and following the rules but still haven't lost that much. My lap RNY was on 7/26 and so far I have lost 13 lbs post op! (OMG! I just caculated that and I am so shocked- and not in a good way!)... it was 15- I just gained 2 lbs in the last couple of days. It just doesn't seem right. I gained after changing stuff around and pushing to get lots more protein in. I thought that was my problem with only 15 lbs. But then- boom- I gained a lb per day for the past 2 days. Obviously that was wrong too. My Dr. office has a nutritionist that I can see at any time- I plan on calling them in the morning and making an appointment. If my blues stick around I will talk to my Dr. about an antidepressant. How long have you been feeling this way? The pushing friends away concerns me...that is a symptom of real depression. Any major life change (and this is definately one) can help bring on a bout of depression. Anyway, my MIL and SIL have had this surgery about 17 months or so ago. And I can say that they felt the first month was hard and it got better each month after. I keep holding on to that!!!! Hugs again! Linda

Thanks for the reply Linda, I have feeling this way for the last week or so..Dealing with all these foods are also making me depressed too. I think am not getting enough water in because am so focused on getting the protein in first. As far as my friends you know that with this surgery it seems like you lose some and gain some. I just dont' want to be bothered with the fake ones. I hope it get better soon for me.

Hi Marlene, Don't worry about your weight loss. It will come. I had lost 20 pounds at 2 weeks and I am now 3 weeks out and still at 20 pounds. I feel like I should be loosing more but I know it will come. Your body is adjusting to all of this and it has been through terrible trama. Your body basically thinks you are starving it so it starts to conserve. Once it realizes that this is normal now it will start loosing again. Be sure to talk to your doctor about depression. I have had bouts of depression and it can get hard. I don't really feel depressed right now but I don't feel like seeing friends a whole lot. Tonight some of our Sales VP's and great friends were in town from our HQ office. I was invited to go out with them along with all my other friends from work. I sat around thinking about going but didn't. I think I felt like I should hav elost more weight since surgery and didn't want to have to answer a bunch of questions. It is hard. Hang in there and feel free to e-mail me anytime! Shellie

I know what you mean about worrying that people will think you should have lost more weight. I am 4 weeks and still at 20 down. It just doesnt want to move much. My sister is coming to town sometime soon, she usually comes about one time a month and we spend the day together. She only lives an hour and a half away. Anyway, she saw me about one or two weeks after surgery and I had lost about 15. Now when she comes I am going to feel a little funny because she thinks Im getting "skinny" and I am not. People think the weight will fall off, I thought that too, but it doesn't for all of us. I've run into other people too and feel kind of funny because they know I had surgery and I don't look much different. I look like I lost about 20 pounds Hang in there. Our time will come. Pam

Thanks Pam, That's the thing people.. People put so much emphasize on this surgery. I mean everyday, someone call me and say how much weight have you lost? My sis called today and said, can I have your clothes now? Am like golly, am not no where near giving my clothes away! Several people have also told me that they can tell I lost weight in my face, am like I can't tell nothing.. Are they for real or what?

Thanks Shellie, My doc.. Told me not to worry about the weight at first because it's mostly water.. But how can you not.. I guess am stuck on losing more.. I've been overweight so long I just want to look normal again I guess. I pray everyday that it will get better. And I know the man upstairs will handle everything.

Marlene, I had my open RNY on July 28th... I lost 23 lbs in the first 10 days.. HAve only lost 7 in the last 22... I hear you. Everything is so NEW to us. STAY POSITIVE and MOTIVATED. Getting used to everything is a challenge. I still am having a hard time getting all fluids and enough protein- I feel like I am eating more than before. Actually I am eating more often just portion size is different. Take it slow.. your body needs to heal it send signals.. I get so damn uncomfortable when I am full I stop...Then wait for the food to pass.I have already had to cut my Blood Pressure med in half. I try to walk everyday even if it is half way around the block- it helps get the feel good hormones to kick in. Major surgery we had... Give yourself a break and be PROUD you took the first step now take baby steps and applaud yourself and give yourself time to adjust and heal... GOOD FRIENDS UNDERSTAND!!!!! God BLESS and I will pray for a speedier recovery for you... Pattiann

Do not get depressed... I felt the same way but I figured out I was not drinking enough water...how many ozs of water are you drinking....Make sure you are drinking your water! I was not drinking and the scale was moving so slightly and now that I am drinking i see a pound to 2 a day drop off so keep your chin

Dear Marlene, Just know we are all going thru the same thing.My surgery was7/20 and I've lost about 22lbs since then.I really expected to loose more.But there again I'm not taking in enough water either.However,I have mixed my whey with crystal lite and that kinda works as water.I hope.Anyway, good luck.I'll say a prayer for you.I love you.But most of all Jesus does.Will talk to you again later.God Bless. Carol