Got a Date! Jitters setting in.

I finally got my surgery scheduled for July 12. Only problem is now I've got the jitters. I keep having the what ifs go through my head and of course having the bariatric coordinator give me the lowdown on every possible thing that could go wrong hasn't helped any. I have a 3 1/2 year old son and I'm really worried about the worst case scenarios. Somebody please tell me this is normal. I know that without the surgery I won't last much longer but I'm really nervous.

You are normal. I was so nervous about getting approved, but once I did, it scared me to death. I am still nervous and getting more nervous every day. We are going to get through this and be losers soon. Debbie

Ughh I am going through the same thing! I was so focused on getting everything ready to be submitted to insurance that I didn't even really think about the actual surgery. I was approved through my insurance in like 4 hours and as soon as I got that approval all of the "what if's" are setting in and I don't think they are leaving anytime soon. I have a 22 month old and a 9 year old and I can't stand to think about if something where to happen to me and they be without me. And of course, like an idiot I went to the memorial site of OH and OMG I was crying like a baby and was within a reach of cancelling my surgery. I am so scared that I will go into septic shock or have a blood clot and die. Most of these people died in their sleep. But on the other hand I know that God is with me and whatever is his will, will be done. But I just pray that God doesn't take me away from children. I pray everyday that he leads me in the right direction and makes me come to ease with my decision. If I am still feeling the same way when I go in for surgery I really feel that I will pull the plug on it all. Even though I am overweight..I am not going to die 3 weeks from now because of it so I need to make sure that every percaution is looked into and followed through. HUGS

I feel like I'm on a teeter-totter. One day I'm fine and the next I'm scared to death. This will be surgery number 8 for me so I'm not scared about anesthesia, etc.; however my dad died 2 1/2 years ago from peritonitis (infection in your abdominal cavity) after an abdominal surgery not WLS related. This weekend I decided to try and face my worries so I went to the OH memorial page and read about every person who had died. I was surprised to find that it included not on WLS related deaths, but also deaths of those waiting to be approved (the obesity got them before they even had a chance), some who died of cancer, car crashes, etc. I think it helped to open my eyes and am very glad I did it; however I don't think it's for everyone. I think each of us finds our own way to confront the fears setting in - this was my way. Best of luck to all of you July babies, Maria

Hi Tonya It's absolutly "NORMAL" to feel the way your feeling. I felt like that for a long time, I'm not scared anymore just anxious to get this done. I have 15 days and a wake up. Cheri

Hi Tonya, My surgery date is one day before yours! I have had four abdominal surgeries before. The first was an emergency C-section. I had a really rough recovery. The others---I was prepared for and the recovery was 10 times easier. We need tp prepare our bodies for this experiece by taking vitamins and calcium and anything else your surgeon has advised including eating healthy. We also need to prepare our minds and our spirits. I know that the more peaceful I can be as I enter the OR the better the surgery will go and the easier the recovery. I rely VERY much on my faith in God. I listen to peaceful music and I try to always keep a positive attitude. Worry and fear will just eat away at us. We can't let that happen. Try to focus on all of the benefits of being thinner and healthier and how much more fun you'll have with your son in the future. A wonderful healthy life is waiting for us! By the way, I used to live in Madisonville. I live in Virginia now. Sandy