anybody get the :WHAT IF'S"

I know I'm not supposed to PROJECT BUT I'M CONSTANTLY THINKING OF 'WHAT IF I GAINED ANY WEIGHT" 'WHAT IF I DON'T LOSE THE WEIGHT I'M SUPPOSED TO' 'WHAT IF I GET A STRICTURE' WHAT IF MY INSURANCE FOR SOME REASON REJECTS ME' ' WHAT IF I HAVE COMPLICATIONS, 'WHAT IF I DON'T GET ENOUGH OF PROTIEN IN ME', AND SO ON AND SO ON. OK PEOPLE I KNOW I SOUND NUTS BUT I'M BEING REAL HERE. TELL ME I'M NOT NUTS AND IT'S NATURAL TO FEEL THE WAY I'M FEELING OR SOME OTHER ADVICE, Cheri

I understand the what ifs because I'm going through them. I keep asking myself what if the doctor says he won't do my surgery because I have gained weight. What if something goes wrong?? I have to admit it is hard for me not to think about the bad.

Cheri! You really have to get a hold of yourself and the negative (what ifs). If you focus on and spend all your time with those negative (what ifs) and bad/negative self-talk you may really make the worst happen. On the other hand if you train yourself to focus on the positive and good things that can happen, they usually do happen. Control you thoughts and your mind - Don't let them control you.... TL

Cheri, I dont know if you are nuts or not... but if you are then I am nuts too. I guess I have another comorbidity "what-if-itis" Hopefully, it is our natural response to so many unknowns. I am trying to focus on the things I do know; like the pre-op instructions, appointment times, things to take care of before surgery ie the details. Meanwhile, my imagination is running wild. Take Care, Jennifer

what if???? ijust read apost aot anerve getting cut during this op.. has ayone heard of this or do u know if this happens opften?

Yes, it can happen - but nerves can heal right? I think so. It's all gonna be alright! HUGS Kimberly

How about..... What if I lose all my weight and surprise myself? I will look so hot!!!! What if I can shop in regular stores/departments? I will have so much to choose from. What if I can tie my shoes comfortably? My bows won't be to the inside of my shoes....anyone else do this? What if I can wear hot looking jeans, shirts and god forbid...shorts? I will look so hot!!!! What if I live to be old and happy? What if I enjoy my skinny new life? Right now, all of these things are what ifs to us pre-ops. Before we know it, they will be "what was I worried about?" Focus on the good and keep the negatives there but don't let them ruin your experience. By the way, I've got the what if virus too. Just my thoughts. Let's all agree to think positive.!!!

I agree we need to remain positive. Of course, I too have a few what ifs hiding in the closet. My biggest what if is....what if I fail at this like I've failed at so many diets....but then I tell myself that this surgery is a tool for me to make my life better.

I try not to think of the "What if" I know I can't do anything nor can I predict the future so why waste time worrying about it. I realize something could happen and if it does I'll deal with it when that time comes. We just need to remember, that "If God brings you to it, He'll surely bring you through it"

Are you kidding? I could provide you with a full, comprehensive list of my "What-if" obsessions if you have 1 or 10 hours to spare....