My son is obese cause of me!I have to be a ggod role model now!!

My son just turned 16 on June6th and weighed in at 306lbs. When I went to bed that night my husband and I cried, We could'nt believe that we let out son get that obese and not say anything. I can't blame him because he does what we do, eat out alo****ch TV, sit by the compurter or the xbox games, I feel like such a failure as a mom when it comes to his weight. He;s such a good boy and very intelligent also. The kids make in fun of him at school and believe me I;ve been there on several occations regarding this problem. If I could I would take away all that pain he's fdeling because he and I talk and he does have alot of pain, he cries to me and tells me he thinks he's a total failure, of course I tell him different, he has alot to offer in life and the kids that laugh at you will never get to know you and thats there mistake because there'll beissing out on something (YOU) it's there lost. You could have been a good friend. Now John and are having the surgery we will help him even more, no more junk food in the house, no soda, surgar free stuff and plenty of water and exercise. Were re trying to get him a job too to keep him busy also, I would like any suggestions and critisizim.********************Cheri

I love myself we feed them to show love and if we knew then what we know now we would have done things differently. However you can't do anything about the past but you can help with his future. She about the family joining the Y. He could swim or work out with weights etc. Most families that go to the Y are over weight and since it is more of a "family atmosphere" it would be better for him, chances are he wouldn't get made fun of. And do like you said and get rid of junk food, give him healthy choices, and sugar free foods for snacks. Remember...Low fat food are usually full of sugar, so maybe choose low carb sweets, which are the sugar -free ones. Good luck and God Bless.

Dawn you are so right and we must think alike. My husband and were discussing the Y this morning and we are all going to join. It'll be good for us as a family also.We are getting ready to go food shopping and I will be reading the labels. Thanks again Dawn, have a good day>**********Cheri

I can't believe I wrote , "I love myself"!! I meant to say, "I know myself that we show love sometimes with food". Duh! I hope you got the clear message anyway. I'm glad your going to check into the Y. We really enjoyed it as a family.

Hi Cheri ... stop beating yourself up. Like Dawn said, the past is the past and we can only move forward. With you and your husband going thru this surgery your son's life will be changed as well. All the junk, high fat, sugar will be out of the house and you will all be eating healthier. The Y idea is wonderful and as a teenager the weight will come off alot easier for him, it will be tough for him but Im sure he'll do it! I know as a mother Im petrified for my daughter (she's 9 now) and Im constantly watching her weight. (I dont nag) but naturally, being very overweight myself, its something I dont want for her. Im fortunate the she loves fruit and veggies and would rather grab fruit than a candy bar. (wierd I know). Im sure as she gets older and her body changes she will really have to watch what she eats thanks to MY GENES but hopefully I can really help and guide her as I will be where I want to be physically and mentally. We all worry about our kids, Cher. Its normal. Time flies by so quickly and before you know it, its gotten away from you and they are teenagers. Move forward sweetie and dont look back! You will all be fine! Your in my thoughts and prayers!! Deb

Hi Deb, How are you? Thanks for the advice you are so right I really need to stop beating myself up. He and I sat down and had a very nice conversation about his weight and he understands that if he doesn't let me help him now he'll end up like my husband and me. God knows I don't want that. He definitly has our genes, unfortunatly, except for the good looks. He looks like his father. Take care Deb Good luck and God bless Cheri PS Dawn, believe it ir not I never even saw that until you mentioned it Cheri