Lets talk about "SEX" and how good it'll be again!!!!

Ok people I know your thinking about sex because I sure am and I can't wait to enjoy it again. My husband and I used to be very intimite but since he and I have gained all this weight I don't find him sexy anymore, I know sexy comes from the inside of a person but lets be honest I don't have that kind of self asteem anymore and don't find myself sexy at all, I'm sure he doesn't find me sexy either, since he doesn't even approach me anymore. Sex is a part of our lives and I miss it. I'm so glad that my husband is also having the surgery because I used to find him very sexy and are sex life "USED" to be great and I want that back. I have a wonderful, caring, understanding husband for 28yrs. now and the sex is sadly being missed by the both of us I've heard from other patients who already had the surgery their sex life has improved tremendosly. All I can say is that we do have alot of things that we would like to do again and sex is one of mine **************************************Cheri

My thoughts exactly, I am a newlywed (march 26th) and our sex life sucks, my husband tries to be affectionate but I am so down on myself right now I hate him touching me. Our wedding night was the best but there was so much emotion flowing nothing else mattered but as soon as that was over, no more. I can't wait to feel sexy again, wear something besides a HUGE t-shirt and sweats to bed. Hell, even a sexy bra would do wonders for my self esteem. Hang in there, we will all get to be horndogs again soon.

(/confused look) Sex? What is sex?

maria, did you check out the ds?

Maria! I'm right there with ya! Tina

OMG! I totally hear you on getting the sex back! Ive got a double whammy b/c I had a hysterectomy back in 2001 so Ive got the hormonal issues coupled w/ the weight thing Im just a mess. When my guy and I met, the sex was awesome .. all the time, like rabbits. Now I shutter at the thought of being sexual, I just dont feel sexy (although he tells me he thinks I am). I just cant wait to get that back!! Horndog city here I come!! Deb LAP RNY

I haven't even thought about that. But I'm sure my fiancee has. But he says he loves me big or small.

I am thrilled to hear someone have the courage to bring up such an important issue. I bet this is not addressed in our preop preparation. I have thought about that also. My surgery is July 22 at Mass General though I live in Derry. I know this is really about healthy but a healthy sex life is also part of a healthy life in general. I think it is perfectly normal and healthy to look forward to being, and more importantly, FEELING desirable to one's partner. This is awful and I certainly dont anticipate it for me, my husband is a wonderful man who loves me big or small, but I cant help but wonder how many relationships/marriages have been strained after one partner loses weight and I wonder how you address and handle the extra attention from others, particularly opposite sex, because I think people in general, if they dont know you, want to not even acknowledge your presence. I am 50 years old with about 130 pounds to lose and I have already lost 10 and I am exercising and walking. HERE'S TO FUTURE HOTTIES!!!!

Ladies I guess this was a good subject to talk about! Were are all adults on this board and we should be open and honest as we can be, I know I am going to be. I knew you would like this topic, because lets face it as of right now I don't have a sex life and that is one of many things that I am looking forward too, oh yeah I'm 43 years young and and I've just begun and hit my prime My husband and I are going to be so hot looking I might even start to get jealous again ( only kidding ) Remember when a woman would look at your man and you'd get those angry feelings inside? Vice versa for the men too, but that's when you know you and your man are looking gooood again, plus were a little older now and can handle it so we just leave and go home and do our own wild thing. OK I guess I've said to much but do yous know what I'm saying here, It's going to be so beautiful again, like starting all over again GOOD NITE LADIES & SWEET DREAMS Cheri ooxxooxx

you"ll find more open discussion on this topic on the sex before and after wls forum listed, second from the bottom on the list of forums.