What will you do now?

Oh Lisa, I sure hope you get it done this time. I sure would hate the disapointment of putting it off just once. Sorry you gave away all your clothes. Congrats on your new date!

This is a great thread! I will: *be careful to maintain my weight and not gain one single ounce *obsess every day and every night over all my emotions, plans, health, planning, lists, etc. *keep visiting the q&a postings and fave boards *take my meds like a good patient so my pcp doesn't shoot me (have been very lax on my daily meds, don't know why... it's such a simple thing to just take my pills - what a weirdo I am) *continue to hold off on purchasing anything surgery related (here's the method to my madness on this - I want to wait until about 3 weeks before date, because I know the closer I get to my actual date, the more psychotic I am going to become, so I NEED those few shopping lists, packing lists, etc to focus on when the date gets closer) *TRY very hard not to drive all my family, friends & co-workers away from talking about my surgery, my surgery, my surgery, and have I told you about my surgery????? Lists you ask? I have a list of what kind of lists I need to make... yep, I'm close to over-the-edge, seriously. Diane

Diane I can relate to you talking about the weightloss surgery with everyone. I'm the same way. Seems that I can't find anything else to talk about. I just don't understand why no one is as anxious and excited as I am.

I'm the opposite. I'm so excited but I'm holding it in. I have to confess, I have not told my family yet. (5 brothers and sisters). I just don't know what their reaction will be. I'm thinking of just waiting until I'm done with it. My best friend is skeptical and asks what I learned after every group session I go to or when I tell her I've been on this site. I know she's trying to act interested but she doesn't really want me to have it. We're about the same size, I hope we can remain friends and she doesn't get jealous. Boy, I started rambling on this one. YIKES> True feelings peaking their ugly heads.

I told a few of my family members and some are worried as expected and so how can you tell them all that you know and have learned? You can't really. I told a couple of friends and they showed concern, too. My Pastors wife said, "You need to talk with Marsha, she can help you go through this surgery. I know it is difficult. You be sure you can handle it with the problem you have had with depression. I sure don't want anything to happen to you."...... ugh, depressed cause I'm big! Duh! I'm on 50 mg Zoloft and I'm doing fine. I'm 38 and I've had a hysterectomy!!! Wake up!!! sorry about the rant. I just don't think people understand that it's more dangerous to be obese. But I just don't have the energy to explaine it all to everyone.(*defend*).....((((("BECAUSE I"M OBESE>>>AND I"M TOO TIRED)))) YOu know what I mean?

Hi everyone. Thanks for reminding me anyway about the things I didn't put on my list. Dawn I too can relate to the family thing because all they keep saying is "that's not such a good idea or you should'nt have that surgery" I'm tired of being fat and tired of being tired. I'm tired of explaining to people that if I don't have this surgery I'll die from being obese and end up getting alot of health problems that other obese people have, like my husband. Thanks for this post it's great**************Cheri

Yes, Dawn, it seems I have been starting every other conversation with, "No negative vibes!" You can see it in certain people immediately if they are going to be supportive and concerned OR meddling and overly concerned. I have not had too many problems, it seems that most of the negativity comes from other obese women. I was the same way before my research, I didn't want anyone taking the "easy way out" and being skinny before I was. Boy! Have I learned a lot since then. But you can't give someone with a preconceived notion of WLS a crash course in all we have learned, all the emotions we've gone through, and most of all, we can't make their decision to research it any more than they would be able to change our minds after all we've put into it. Guess I'm ranting too, but I just wanted you to know I can sympathize with having to defend my choice. Diane

I just so thankful for all of you who are so supportive and who don't judge. I plan on talking about My surgery until your ears fall off! What else do we want to talk about? Does anyone have any concerns etc.?

I'll be taking the Psychological Evaluation today @ 1pm. Wish me luck!

Hi Dawn- First of all good luck on your Psycological appt. You asked if there were any other important issues for us to discuss: I hate to bring this up but my husband and were talking about the things he needs for his surgery( June 15th) next week and I pretty much covered everything except one thing. our LIVING WILL!! I know people don't like to talk about that but maybe we should. I'm glad that he and I did and got it all straightened out and in order. I know God forbid anything should happen to him or any of us but you never know. Just thought maybe people do have a living will but forgot to put it on their list**********Cheri