Crappy Turn of Events

Well all you sweet people that have helped me with my "new man" troubles, guess I needed to let everyone know of the most recent turn of events. After 6 months of him being totally sweet, kind and considerate. This weekend was our "6 mo. dating anniversay". I even got him a small "happy present" to commemorate the event. Oh guess what he got me??? An OFFICIAL dumping. He said, AND I QUOTE.. I realize I never want to marry you so there is no need for us to continue to date, If I ever get married again it will be to someone 35 years old, I don't want to marry anyone my age, 50, because yall look too old... I want someone 15 years younger than me at least. How freaking dam ****ty was that? How mean and hurtful. I have never, even when I was fat, been hurt like that. And later on after I had been crying for 2 hours, he started hugging me and saying **** like, You will always have me, I will always be here for you, etc..... WHAT THE HELL IS HE THINKING??? I asked him why the hell did he ever start dating me since he knew my age then. He said, he didn't know. I had really begun to have a better self image of myself after surgery, but now this, I feel less than an inch tall. I have cried in bed all weekend, like an idiot.... No sleep, no food... And to make matters worse, I have this licensing test I have to take on Friday for work and it is HORRENDOUSLY hard, and my passing or failing means whether I get this huge promotion or not. I told him, why couldn't you do this next weekend, you know I have to have my mind clear to study for this test Friday. I just want to hurry and get past this hurt, but dang it is hard. Sue

Oh Sue, I'm sorry. please know that you are so special to us. It's his loss- he sounds like such an a$$. don't cry over him- he's not worth it. SO NOT WORTH IT. you are beautiful. you have worked so hard to get healthy- get out and do some walks- and keep your head up.. meet a man that deserves you for YOU... 50... healthy and wise!!! much love is being sent.. jennifer

Sue~ Oh honey! What a terrible thing to say! What a heartless *******! I read this to my husband and he said....."OMG.....what an IDIOT! Like someone 35 would go for him anyway unless he had an A$$ load of money"! I cracked up and realized he was probably right! From what you have said before....it doesn't seem like he fits the Sugar Daddy requirements and he's just got his head so far up his own a$$ that he's delusional! Holy Hell! You don't deserve this! You're an incredible woman! Clear your head of this piece of $h*t guy and concentrate on your upcoming test. If you let him get in the way of that........a year from now when he is a distant memory, but you are living with the consequences of your distracted mind......you're gonna kick yourself. Good luck sweetheart! Keep us posted and dont ever take this guy back! Malibu

First of all, you look fantastic, and I just know you look even better without HIM on your arm. Try to be happy that he only wasted 6 months of your time and not a minute longer - you don't need him. Everything that he said to hurt your feelings just goes to show how insecure HE is in himself and has nothing to do with you, your age, or your looks. I know its hard to see that in the moment, but you will realize it later. I'm no psychic and certainly no expert in the dating field, but I'd be willing to bet that you'll meet a real man who treats you like a queen. Hope you feel better soon. xoxo

Skinny Inside.... Well put girl! Andrea and I were just on the phone.....you came up in the conversation. We both think you're a fabulous addition to this board. Your thoughts are dead on girl!

Awww, I'm so touched. Too bad it took me a whole year to venture to this board!! LOL

What a D*CK! Could he have been any ruder? Ya know what? Better off that you found out now what kind of an oxy moron his is than years down the road. Why waste your time on someone who didnt even have the decency to wait until you took your test, OR, until after the 6 month anniversary. He obviously knew you were happy about it. You dont need him. You'll find someone better than that. Tiffany PS. I hope you took back the "happy present"!

Sue- I am SOOOOO Sorry you were hurt. Everyone has given you sound advice. Please know that I think you are an amazing, kind and wonderful woman and this guy has S$$$T for brains because he didn't recognize it. DO NOT let what this jerk says or does to you effect how you view yourself-- HE has the problem, not you. Hang in there Sue-- we love you- Andrea

Thanks guys, I know I dont post much but I always read everyday. I am trying to focus on all his shortcomings but I still keep thinking WTF would someone not want me after 6 months for someone 15 years younger. Why did he date me in the first place? Why did he have to be so hurtful. There are ways to handle things and that hurt was certainly not it. In retrospect, I am trying to think about the things that I was not comfortable with. 1. He ALWAYS referred to all women, whether in real life or tv on how pretty or not they were (SHOWS SHALLOWNESS) 2. He always made fun of fat people (YET AGAIN MORE SHALLOWNESS, AND THIS ONE ALWAY**** A NERVE) 3. He was a stick in the mud, never wanted to go anywhere but sit in front of the tv and occasionally go to a bar on Sat. night. Nothing more.... 4. He NEVER ONCE bought me anything. I always sent him cards and would buy him presents and never got nothing back from him. 5. The sex was HORRIBLE, he basically was a penis that laid there. If I had not done everything, nothing would have been done. (I always thought, well I could work with this and teach him, maybe he didn't know what to do) So basically all my friends said I was settling, he was sweet, kind, courteous, caring and loving for those 6 months, until the demon came out Sat. night. And the fact that he said he is now "HARD" like all the b***tches he has been with since and including his wife. Now that makes you wonder why he had so many relationships and none of them stuck. I just want to get to the mad stage and get past the hurt. We spent so much time together everyday, 2 hours on the phone each night, so now my nights feel so empty, I asked a gfriend to spend the night tonite but she is sick. And in the mornings on the way to work we would always call and say Good Morning and this morning it was sooooooooooooo hard driving to work. Sue

That is so crappy. NEXT...don't let this drama eat at you.