Advice Needed Again

Hey guys, I know I don't post much lately but I do read them everyday. Yep I need advice again, man advice. Yall know I have been dating this new guy for 6 months. He is sweet, kind, adorable but so totally set in his ways you can set your clock by him. We are both 50 years old. He is totally fine with us just seeing each other on Wednesday night and Sat. night. I am, on the other hand, not so happy with that. He was in a horrible 15 year marriage where she cheated on him and stole from him for 13 of those years. I am trying to keep that in mind and learn patience. I said to myself I would give it a year to hopefully carry the relationship to its next level. I totally am in love with him and have told him so. He tells me that he cares very deeply for me and that I am very special woman. I don't say it anymore because I don't want him to feel uncomfortable when I say it since he hasn't ever said it. When we are together, he doesn't want me to leave, and when we aren't together, we talk every night an hour and a half. But it is like clockwork, he calls at 9:15 on the dot. This week we didn't visit on Wednesday because he was feeling a little sick. Nothing bad, just a bit achy. He is fine now. I do not step out of my comfort zone, EVER, and this morning I did and told him that I really missed him and wanted to come up tonite instead of our usual Sat. morning routine. He shot that idea down saying he probably wouldn't be good company since he had been sick. I normally would be ok with this but the only other 2 times I mentioned us being together on a Friday he shot me down those 2 times also. He doesn't do anything, we talk on Fridays so I know he is home, jus****ching tv. Of course it hurt my feelings and I started crying at work (dammit) so I called him back and said, Dale I need to talk to you about something... And I told him about how much courage it took for me to even ask that and that when you are in love with someone it doesn't matter if they are sick, hurt, sad, happy or whatever you want to be with them. I told him maybe it would be better for us to just be friends instead of boyfriend / girlfriend. He said, don't say that, why are you thinking that, etc.... He said don't think things like that. So it ended up with still no resolution. It is just so hard to figure this out, we are like best friends, never have a grumpy word between us, love each other's company, enjoy the same things. He says that we are "building" in our relationship, but I sort of feel like it is a "rain delay" that nothing is moving forward.... Does anyone have any great words of wisdom??? Peter, Tim, Jay, especially the guys.... Sue

I just wanted to drop a quick note and let you know I need to think about this some more before I reply. Just know I am thinking about you!

Sue, Us girls could plan a surprise wedding and get him to the church on time! Seriously though, I know this has been bothering you. I'm not sure how to read it. On one hand, even if the relationship does go to the next level, if he's such a "routine" guy, is that going to make YOU happy? I know you like to "live" in the moment alot, but also desire the security and companionship that he provides. I think he's a great guy, and a nice gentleman. Perhaps giving a little while will give him the courage he needs. I just don't know. But I DO know that you definately need to let him know that you don't want to be wasting your time. Life's too short for that. If he REALLY REALLY can't ever make that commitment to you, then it probably is best to deal with it now. At least he knows how you feel. If he loves you, he'll do some serious considering, and at least talk about it and let you know where he sees your future together. I love ya, call me anytime. Lot's going on in my life. Probably won't be here much longer. What's the deal on your move? HUGS K