Help please! Prayers...!!!

Ok guys... I've been putting off telling everyone what is going on with us because, well, I don't know why. I know I can always count on this group to help with prayers and such... Ok, first, we had a wonderful, relaxing vacation in Wisconsin, and then Monday when we come home, Scott returns to work only to be told that they are replacing him, or doing away with his position, or something to that effect. Either way, there is nothing for him in this branch anymore, or any close to us but that he was welcome to go through the application process - within the same company no doubt - for a transfer to another branch and they would give him excellent references. Well, we don't want to move to AZ and that's pretty much the only thing out there. Scott is still working at this point, but we have about 100 resumes out all over the country. (where we are willing to go). Scott ha**** bottom this weekend, and for those of you who know Scott, know that it is hard to get him down. I think he really thought that he'd be getting tons of phone calls at this point and he could tell this company to "stick it"! (to be polite!) I've taken on a second job, I already had a church job that allowed me to work from home except during church services of course, and that job has been such a blessing. But not knowing when Scott could walk in the door and be told it's his last day was really worrying me, so I went and got a second job in the evening. I guess it's really my 3rd job because I also sell on Ebay - and that can be a full time thing! Anyway, I'm working at a convenient store and a liquor store that are owned by the same person. Bless his heart, he is trying to just give me hours! He doesn't know Scott's job is on the line, but he understands that we really needed a second income right now. We are SO in debt - not as badly as many people, but we do have some loans that I really want to pay off before we are unemployed. And about that -- if they "fire" Scott, I don't think he'll qualify for unemployment, which is why I think they are handling it the way they are because rumor has it they are doing this with almost every person in Scott's position at all the branches in the Southeast. The hurricane REALLY hurt his sales, but they are all rebuilding now and the money is starting to come in again, but they aren't letting us stay to get it. Some "golden boy" will walk in and get Scott's commissions that he's worked hard for all year long... and I mean HARD for - shoveling crap, walking into buildings with black mold and knee high "crud". You all know what I'm talking about. He was down there the week after helping these dentists salvage what they could etc.... and now they are repaying him. Except he won't get it. I'm SO PISSED! It's all so aggrivating. This is the second time our family has been devistated in Mississippi so we are thinking this is God's way of getting us out of here and closer to our aging parents - his in AL and mine in GA. We keep getting little whispers like, "got your resume, expect a call - you sound like the man for the job" but no phone calls yet. No emails, nothing! Scott is probably one of the MOST hard working people I know. I just don't understand why this is happening to us again! And now, with my "rant" out of the way, let's talk about my eating. Can we say EMOTIONAL EATING with a vengeance. Right now I'm sitting here with an XL bag of peanut M&M's. My blood sugar is sky high - I also have a bloody mary - I'm going nuts! I know what you are going to say .... Put away the food, put away the liquor, put away the sleeping pills - all will be OK... But fear is a very dangerous thing, and I just keep looking at my 3 beautiful children, wonder where the next meal will come from, wonder how to pay the utilities, and I'm just FED UP! I'll shut up now... just PLEASE keep us in your prayers, prayer for a GOOD, reliable job. Especially one that will pay his gas instead of us having to pay it like we do now! I mean, I'm not trying to be picky God - but it sure whould be nice. I know HE has a plan for us, I'm just finding it hard to find it, ya know? I want that "instant gratification" and He ain't budging on it! Patience is a virtue right? You can live on Ramen noodles and rice right? Ok, I feel a little better - could be the venting - could be the sugar - but probably is the bloody mary! *evil grin* I love you guys, and I'm just sorry that I'm so "in and out" lately. I've just been so overwhelmed. I do try to read the board daily, and am praying for the problems others are having. I'm also excited about the upcoming surgeries! It's a different world after gastric bypass folks - and I can't WAIT for you to get there! HUGS! Kimberly

Hey Kimmy Grimme! Finish your bloody mary. Put away the M & Ms - you probably had enough anyway... {{{{great big ol hugs and prayers here}}}}}}} Now, first things first... finding a job - resumes mailed out hardly ever get the job done. (no pun intended). More than resumes, people you know are the main sources for getting hired faster. Go this morning and get his name in Linkedin.com - you can add me as a contact if you want. What happens is this: all my contacts become your contacts because you are linked to me... so the 50 people or so that I know in companies across the US are instantly linked to your husband. And he can email any one of them and say, hey, I saw you are linked in through.... blahblahblah and I am seeking a position in.... you can also go and do job searches on Linked in as well. Don't pay for membership - the free kind works just fine. I've helped 2 people find jobs this way fairly quickly. Make sure he investigates the companies and their websites and job openings before writing to them so he knows if there are any available positions, etc. The second thing is pull in your own contacts - church, friends, whoever, whatever. Doesn't matter. Let em know, hey my husband is doing this and such and is looking for a new position - do you know of any job openings? Talk to everydamnbody. You might be surprised what people know and remember when you ask. Finally, go out on Craig's List out on the net and post a job wanted kind of ad - lots and lots of people read those and hire. And... keep your spirits up and don't spiral into depression. Think positive thoughts. The universe has a way of reponding to us when we say we are going to do something and then let it go. Don't expect failure, in other words. EXPECT success. We all love you and of course, we'll be here for you should you ever need anything from any of us! Sometimes, losing a job is God's way of telling us, hey you deserve something better and you have become too complacent in this thing here. Time to move and to bigger and better things! Love and kisses, Nannygoat

Nan, You are the coolest! I just love ya do death! I'm checking the linkedin thing out tonite. You are so right about it being "who you know". Both jobs my husband has ever had were given to him because of who he knew. I KNOW bigger and better is around the corner. I'm over my pity party, and have become pro-active again! LOL It's all good! Thanks for the advice! HUGS K

Prayers are on the way! Channan

Thank ya... you sexy thang you! HUGS! K

I want to reinforce the advice Nan has given you! She has given you some great ideas and I would follow them. I can tell you that when I used to run restaurants for a living I never once hired a manager from random resume's that were sent to me. Direct contact and referals is where it happens. This is also how it tends to happen in other business also. When I went into teaching 10 years ago I only applied in 2 districts. I found out about those 2 positions through friends and I got offers from both, as a matter of fact my new job in our district, I believe was a direct result of me being friends with 1/2 of the interview committee. Use those resources, they are invaluable. Keep you chin up, you never know what may be right around the corner. Sometimes you find just what you are looking for when you least expect it, not necessarily when you are trying to force it to happen. I know it is hard but be patient but be persistant. Don't give up, and as Nan said finish the bloody mary and put down the M&M's. I know it is a hard time. About 13 years ago I owned my own restaurant and went bankrupt and put 40 people out of work. It was one of the most horrible times I have ever experienced. I was out of work for some time after this and was very unhappy. Now I can look back on that time in my life and realize if all that wouldn't have happened I wouldn't be where I am now. I know you have already been through a great deal in life but remember everything happens for a reason. Remember we all found each other on this board for a reason. We are here to support each other in any way we can. What exactly does your husband do? Maybe even one of us might know a company/job that you would be interested in, you never know. Keep your chin up and keep us posted on how it's going. I'll be thinking of you.

Peter, Thanks for the encouragement! We have lost a business also, so I know right where you are coming from! I am going to follow Nan's advice and get a move on! Here's to bigger and better! HUGS K

KImberly: Although I now work in School to Careers Programs, I spent 25 years as a Manager then Asst. Director then Commissioner's Asst. in the Dept. for Employment Services here in Kentucky. From an unemployment standpoint, it is vital that your husband document this situation and keep a daily log. If he is fired, it has to be for cause and it has to be a solid case. Without that, employers run the risk of losing. Most employers will not fight a claim with a weak defense. If worse comes to worse, file a claim and appeal it if it is denied. In Ky. there are three levels of appeal, then the courts. Nan is right on target. Also, use Monster.com. Lastly, it is much better to start the seach immediately. Employers look to hire the employed first. Don't let the *******s get you down. Dave

Dave! Thanks! I won't let the *******s get me down anymore! I'm on to bigger and better things! At least my hubby was able to work for a company that paid for my surgery! That's a good thing! Alot of good has come from his experience at this company and now he has 2 career paths to choose from. Just hope someone knows someone else who is hiring! LOL HUGS K

You got so much great advice from the others, I can only suggest following it. My question, what kind of job is your husband looking for? I doubt any of us are hiring, but if we are - it helps to know what he can do. Thinking of you and sending prayers your way. -Pam