Were we BOTH in denial?

I stumbled over a pre-op picture of me today and I teared up. Not because I was happy....but because I can't belive I let myself get that big. I was one big ass'd woman! I asked my husband......"How did you love me like that?" Of course this is an impossible question to answer. I loved me for me, not the size of my ass. I look at that girl and think...."Why did he never lose interest in me!" How is that possible? The romance went out the window years ago, but the interest in sex was always there. I'm forcing the former to return. I crave and deserve it now. (not that fat people don't!) My husband looked at that picture and said....."I don't remember you ever being that size either." Were we BOTH in denial? Malibu

you know my husband and i had almost the same conversation. i wish i was thinner, but he tells me i am "so fine" where i am- he loves my curves. he loved me bigger too.. when we see a picture of me.. or when the car seat is closer to the steering wheel (i could barely fit before) or i'm putting on big clothes (everything is big right now.. no money to shop ) or when he feels a new bone LOL ... it sure is amazing/weird... (NICE) ;) jen

Oops....I meant to say..."Why did he NOT lose interest in me". That makes more sense now, huh? C

Because....as my husband said to me after we looked at some pictures like that..."I've always seen you with my heart." I'm convinced that our hearts send different pictures to our brains. Am I making sense? Kitty

I love that response! Thanks Kitty! C

YES - me, my husband AND my mother had this same conversation - all in denial. And my mother said the same thing as your husband - I never saw you as being that big. And I struggled with my "before" picture too because not only was I mad at myself, but I thought - why didn't anyone SAY anything while I was packing on the pounds? (Not that it was anyone else's responsibility, but still...) Funny how alike my situation and conversations about it are to yours.