What's wrong with me?

Hi Tim, Thank you so much for your wonderful message! Wow, you really gave me a lot to think about. I like what you said about what my ex-friend said being traumatic & that I was betrayed. I feel so silly for letting something like this get to me. I mean it's been like 25 years for crying out loud! But you are right, I was betrayed. I guess maybe I need to acknowledge it and then maybe I can move on. But that line (that I disattract the guys) goes around and around in my head so much sometimes. Weird. Thank you Tim. You are just too wonderful for words! And thank you for the compliment! My husband is a butt man himself. And he agrees w/you! Like I was telling Pam (I think it was), it's so easy to only see the flaws. Thank you, thank you!! Hugs and love (and a big wet kiss! ), Lisa

Beautiful lady: Tim's post is so "right on" and Channon's, too! She's mastered the art. Dave

Hello Dave, Thank you for calling me a beautiful lady. I think you are the only other man that's ever called me that (besides my husband). I was shocked at how good it made me feel. Thank you so much. It was really nice to hear that! Lisa

Lisa, I think you look amazing. We started at about the same weight before surgery and I thought I had done good but you are way ahead of me! Take a look at your before (first pictures) and your most recent ones, and you will see a wonderful transformation. I know I look in the mirror and still have "fat eyes" when I see myself but when I see pictures, it is somehow different. That aside, you know the person you are, your spirt, your personality and these are what are most important, not to mention the wonderful health benifits and life you are now living. Down days, we all have them, they get less and less. Hope you have a great day!

Hi Debbie, Why thank you for the compliment! I really appreciate that. Your message helped to motivate me to update my profile with a bunch of new pics & comparisons. It was actually quite cathartic. It's amazing to see how far I've come. You are right, pictures are different, huh? I guess it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about how I look; it matters what I think. I just wish I could see past the flaws sometimes! When I was large, I got good at not looking at myself in the mirror. I think I need to relearn that! You have done AMAZING. Please don't let me make you feel like you haven't come a long way! I looked at your profile (I'll read it more when I have time later this evening) but you look great and have done an awesome job! Thank you very much Debbie! Hugs, Lisa

Can I just add..because everyone has so eloquently responded to your post.... that WHO THE HELL CARES WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS??? YOU"RE MAN IS A REAL HOTTIE!!! And obviously he cares more about you than anything. Seriously though, I do know what you mean, and I too struggle with these issues. It comes from years of insecurity that has been nurtured by mean people, such as your friend, all of our lives. I think you are beautiful... inside and out! HUGS Kimberly

Hi Kimberly, Thanks for the wake-up call! I showed DH what you said. He got the biggest grin on his face! Thank you Kimberly. I really appreciate that you called me beautiful inside & out. It's important to me that I'm a good person; I think that's awesome that you can see that. I love what you said about all the years of insecurity being nurtured by mean people. Have you ever seen the move Romy & Michelle's High School Reunion? There's a scene at the end where Romy tells the bi*ch who picked on her that she's a bad person with an ugly heart. I *love* that line! And it's so true. Why do I care what those kinds of people think? I don't want anyone like that in my life. Those that aren't like that see past what you look like anyway, so why am I so tied up in knots about it? Thank you for helping me to see that Kimberly. I appreciate your insight and support! Hugs and love! Thank you sweetie! Lisa

Lisa you are the lucky one. You have a dh. I am single. I was single fat and still single skinny. If men look at me I don't see it. I live in a little,little town. Not much to choose from. Men are sneaks. They look when you are not looking!!! Amy

Hi Amy, You are right, I am lucky. It's easy to forget that there are so many wonderful women out there looking for a good man. I am lucky & grateful. Thank you for reminding me. You are right, men are sneaky. Maybe we're just not catching them! Take care. You have been through a lot. I hope it's getting easier for you. Hugs, Lisa