why ?

ok.. i was telling myself not to get my hopes up.. but you guessed it.. i am.. we're not trying to prevent it and of course it's not happening.. and i doubt it ever will so why do i do this to myself... it just hit me yesterday that I was feeling this... and thinking- ok if i tell people i'm not getting my hopes up- then i won't.. but i did. and now there's a MN board person who's not married, was told she couldn't conceive.. but you guessed it again.. is pg I wish her all the best... but I can't seem to think.. why not me/us ??? j

Sorry to here this. It is hard not to get your hopes up every month. It took my sister 2 years to get pg. And they are now trying for there second one and they have been trying for over a year. Don't get down it can still happen for you. My sister thought it would never happen but it did. It might take some time but your only 11 months out and some doctors say to wait 18 months to 24 months after surgery so maybe your body is just having you wait a little bit longer. When it does happen you are going to be so excited. Good luck and try and not get down.

Jennifer~ Sweetie......you posted this week that you have had two periods this month. This means that your hormones HAVE NOT stabilized yet and when this is the case it's almost impossible to know when you're ovulating. This is good news....it means you're still in the game girl! It can take very fertile couples months and months to conceive under the right conditions. For those who have had difficulties, such as you and your husband, it can take even longer. One thing I have heard soooo many times from those who have had difficulties such as you are having, but who eventually get pregnant is that once you relax about it.......it happens. I know this does no good for you right now. It's obviously weighing heavily on your mind. Rightfully so. It is such a natural feeling to want to build your family and to nurture little ones. I used to volunteer at this homeless shelter once a week and we had this crack wh**%$# that got pregnant and delivered 3 babies during the time I was there! Each child was taken away from her by the state and each of them had problems (fetel alcohol syndrom and such). I just could not understand how God let this woman get pregnant, but my sweet sister-in-law couldn't conceive after trying for several years. Some things just don't add up right, but thank heaven there were good homes and willing people to take those babies......families like you and your husband who adopted your first baby are a Godsend to these little ones. I wish you the best Jennifer! I really hope that this happens for you. Take care sweetie! C

Oh honey, I am so very sorry. I am thinking of you. {{{hugs}}} sweetie, Lisa