Weird Day yesterday!
As I've stated before life is full of different turns that we must deal with.
Well yesterday was very different. To make a very very long story short, I started the day having naked pictures of myself taken (NO C, I won't be posting those), I had a plastics consult. I won't know for awhile the outcome on that. They are submitting to insurance and he said it usually takes about 4 weeks to hear from insurance.
Then the day got stranger. I spent the afternoon meeting with county children's protective services regarding my niece (35 year old herion user) and her 1 1/2 year old son. She left treatment at the end of March and has been begging and living on the streets of Minneapolis since then with her child. There was an order of immediate custody out for her child. After meeting with the social worker for awhile my sister (her mom) and I drove around some of the less desirable parts of town mainly just for some peace of mind for my sister. Child Services had been looking for her for several weeks. Well low and behold we found her and her son in a park. I called the police, and while my sister watched from a block away, I helped them identify her and take the child into protective custody. My niece will probably never speak to me again (at least not for a very very very long time) for having her child taken away from her, but I know in my heart and brain that we did the right thing. Her son may be sad being away from his mother but he is SAFE. It was probably the most stressful thing I have ever done. I told the cop that I don't envy their jobs having to do things like this on a regular basis, and that's coming from a middle school teacher, most people tell me they wouldn't do my job.
As they say "what dosn't kill us makes us stronger". The really hard part for me at this point is wishing I could do more for him and her. I have racked my brain all evening and last night trying to figure out what more I can do for them. I have even thought about taking him into my home. I don't think that would be the best for him though, it would just make me feel better. My sister wouldn't be a good place for him either as she is 60 and not always very stable emotionally.
I don't know where I go from here on this other than to say I feel this strange mix of emotion (sadness, stress, relief, angst, fear, forboding and of course second guessing). Yes I did do some stress eating last night fortunately it wasn't to horrible. I had 2 S/F fudgesicles and some cheese curds (I guess it could have been worse). If any of you know of someone in the Minneapolis area that would be interested or willing to foster a neat little 1 1/2 year old boy let me know. He is currently in "the system". I like the case manager but I also know there are limits to her resources.
Thanks, and those of you with kids, give your kids a hug. Having you alive and able to take care of them is no small feat. Keep up the good work and stay strong!
Andrea 
((((((peter))))))
I am so sorry that you are going through all of this, but I am glad that you stood up for that child. I was a victim of the system for a long time, and I hope you are able to find a safe place for that baby to grow up in. There is nothing for you to feel guilty about. You did the right thing, and that is honorable!! Please do not feel sorry for doing the right thing!! Thank you from a former 'victim'!!
Take care and lots of hugs coming your way!!
Nickie
I know from experience.
The best way to keep the guilt feelings in check is to remain actively involved. Your young nephew and niece will need an advocate. Having suffered abuse and neglect as a youngster, I personally wish I had an uncle like you.
Your in a much better position to deal with this physically than you were a year ago. Stress eating, perhaps. You'll keep it under control.
Stay proactive, my friend.
We're her for you.
Dave
Peter, you absolutely did the right thing. That poor little boy. Yes, he will miss his mommy but it's only because he doesn't know anything different. He deserves so much more than living on the street with a mother who is not emotionally available to him or able to provide him with even his basic needs. You saved his life- you literally saved this boys life!!! Good for you! So what if your niece doesn't speak to you- if she ever straightens up, she will see what a loving thing you did for her. And if she doesn't straighten up, you don't need her in your life anyway.
Bless you- and keep thinking positive about this. You did the right thing!
You absolutely did the right thing here Peter.
It was NOT a co-incidence that you found them yesterday! There is a higher power that has stepped in here.....through you! It led you to them.
You are this little guys hero--Guilt be gone!
Thank you for having the courage to do tis very difficult thing,
C
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