Unwelcome changes
I know I have mentioned this before but, my sister was my biggest supporter pre-op. Now that I am closing in on goal.........there is to be NO discussion with her about my weight, size, exercise, food, etc., etc.!!! I'm NOT one of those people who talk till I'm blue in the face about my surgery, weight loss, blah, blah, blah!
I am the third person in my family to have this done. I listened to the endless ramblings of those who..........lost how much and how fast, what size they were, and on, and on!
SO.........I DID NOT want to be "that" person! I make sure that I don't bring it up. My mom is the only one I feel comfortable "bragging" to. No one else in my family wants to hear it. They were "burned out" by the two who came before me. This is the only place that I feel comfortable celebrating my success.....GOD! I hope you guys aren't sick of hearing it too! HA!
My question is this........Is there anyone in your life that you can not talk to about your success. Is there anyone who genuinely wants to hear about it.
Love y'all,
Malibu C
My best friend who now I'm not to sure is my best friend hates to here about my success. She so needs the surgery,her mom had it done a year ago, but she won't do it and I don't try and convince her. I stopped telling her about my success because she would just get upset. When ever I tell her something I can do now that I couldn't do before. She is always like "well I can do that now". I'm always thinking inside ya right. Like last week I took my daughter to a carnival and got on all the rides with her. She loved it so much and we laughed so much. I haven't gotten on carnival ride since I was like 10.
My sister is my biggest support. She always listens to me and helps change the subject when someone asks about it and I don't want to talk about it. She is the best!!!
Good job on your weight loss you are doing great.
Last week I saw my life long friends for the first time in several months and they DID NOT want to discuss my weight loss. This was fine b/c none of them know about my wls and I didn't really want to talk about it either. It was obvious that they were actively trying to avoid the topic though.
I laugh about it, but I realize it's really hard to see others succeed at something you have failed at sooo many times.
I'm glad that your sister is in your corner. She's a keeper!
C
I was told imagine how the other people feel. They see (me) losing- happier etc....
misery loves company.. DO not let anyone rain on your parade.
I have tried to become more sensitive in what I talk about- if Someone says you look great or offers a compliment my only reply is I feel so much better thank you.
I have family who have not talked to me- snickered- said enough..etc....
The reality is there- I am looking like a new person but the same old me is still inside.
I understand how you feel...
hugs
I'm sorry that your sister is acting like that! My sister is not doing what yours is, but she is also acting kinda funky!!
She lives in South Africa and is about 15 years older than me. I think she has always been competitive with me although I can't imagine why given the age difference and the fact that she has been married for more than 25 years and have 3 kids.
N e ways, long story short ... she was really jealous when I first lost my weight before I came to the US. After my mom's visit a couple of years ago, my sister kept on asking my mom "oh, how does she look? is she still skinny?" I guess hoping for the worse ... which unfortunately she was right about. My sister in the meantime lost weight as well doing Atkins, went for a boob reduction and tummy tuck and looked pretty good!
At first I kept my WLS a secret and never sent pictures anymore. After I had lost some of the weight, I sent them some pictures and told them that I had it done. Then she tells me yeah, she asked her doctor about it too because she picked up 20lbs and cant seem to get rid of it, but her doctor told her she is too skinny for it ... I guess fishing for a compliment! Okay, then when I mentioned my hope for upcoming PS, she said that she too is looking into have augmentation because she wants nice big boobs because she doesnt like hers now. Okay, everything I do you need to do too?? I guess I shouldnt dare look better than her!!??
Ugh, just makes me mad! Now when I email my family, I DONT send pictures and I DONT talk about my weightloss or the PS. People are weird I tell ya!!
But you know what, enjoy what you have and you know what ... you dont need to say anything, your body talks for itself ... they can see how great you look and its probably jealousy!!