Why is SHE here?

I feel like I am looking and feeling better after a 56 pound weight loss but it's when I compare myself to others when she pops up and and tries to set me back. Of course there is always going to be someone thinner, better looking, smarter, funnier, younger, etc., and that's okay, but she has to butt in once in awhile to let me know I will never get to my goal to look or feel a certain better. It's a constant fight for sure but reflecting back on where we begun in this journey helps to put things into perspective. Hey 62 pounds is alot of weight loss. It's funny how some people just can't tell you you look like you've lost weight when you know that it shows. Karen S.

SHE too lives with me. SHE follows me everywhere I go. SHE says I don't look any different. SHE also says I have 200 lb.s to lose and that won't even make you at the desired weight. SHE also says "so what" that I've lost 67 lb.s you still have 133 to go. SHE also doesn't think I will ever get close to that goal. SHE tells me I'm a failure when I don't exercise. SHE tells me I'm a failure because I had to have surgery in the first place. I work everyday to get rid of SHE. I have told her to move out. I have told her SHE is NOT welcome. Maybe one day SHE will listen. Leeanne

Hay Steve, You got some great replies here I left my number on your cell give me a call if you like. John

Steve I'm going to be echoing a bunch of what the other guys have said...but I'm trying to get my replies total up Seriously though, you've had most of the info you're searching for offered to you. I think in our hearts each of us post-surg. guys will say that NO one can recommend the surgery for another, all we can do is post our story, put it out there and let the reader sift through and believe that which he/she will. What reason could one have in posting a "lie"...we're all pretty anonymous in here, there's no "sharing the misery" or trying to validate a wrong decision made if it can't be done "publically" I'd think. Read all your replies, heck spend a weekend and sort through as many of the profiles as you can handle...one theme runs in just about all of them, especially the guys and that's who I searched out when making my decision. "I was going to die sooner than later....I was relatively healthy but knew I wasn't going to be for long...I couldn't participate in my kids' lives anymore..." These are the motivations for most of us, what YOURS is isn't for anyone else to declare. I'm a Lap Bander...mostly because I wanted it NOW not when and if the insurance company told me I could. I believe my surgeons studies that show the bander and the bypasser ON THE AVERAGE to be within 2% of the other in total excess loss at 5 years post-op. I could work with taking 2 years of so to get to my goal so for ME Banding was the right decision...for you? Dunno. But don't shy away from asking, pestering, researching, attending seminar after seminar looking for that one piece of info that will put your mind at ease...and if it doesn't happen...ain't right or wrong, only means you've got a different path. Good luck!

Actually, Miss Celie, SHE has been keeping me off of this board lately. Pre-op, I was a fanatical reader/poster (Main Messageboard****lebrated each and every person's success and I prayed for those who were feeling low. Then SHE and I found *this* message board and felt so blessed because you are all so wonderful and we are all in the same boat. But SHE has developed something that *I* have never felt in my whole life...ENVY. Do not get me wrong, I am ~thrilled~ with everyone's success. But, even though *I* have lost 52 lbs so far...SHE is making me feel like it is not good enough...and is not anywhere near what you all are losing. And so SHE is making me feel like a failure and it is killing ME. And making ME not want to visit the board as often. And that is really, really sad, isn't it? SHE, to put it quite frankly, sucks the big one... Jersey Mom

Well you were ing and ing alone with your doggie. It made me want to say "Party on dude!!" but your not a dude. So I called ya a Dudette. Glad I got to tickle your funny bone! Huggs, Ruth

I agree with you. I am the Deborah mentioned. I do ot post as much as I would like cause I feel the same way. I was devestated when my surgeon said I was losing too fast. 55 lbs in 9 weeks. That was the average. These 3-4 lbs were damn hard to lose this past month and I don't eat. SHE is destroying me and I have to get a handle on her. For my own sake. Thanks

Good for you! It is really happening! Lori

SHE is the person who looks in the mirror and sees only the fat, not how much fat is gone. SHE is the one who focuses only on the saggy skin and not the fact that there used to be fat there. SHE is the one who notices the bra is getting big because the girls are deflating (I am glad SHE sees that because I don't want to be a DDD any more ). I think SHE is the person who tells an anorexic she's fat and I think SHE is the person who sees only the negative. I can relate to having people not say anything. For the most part, people have noticed and made comments, and I love it when they do. But there are a couple of people who I guess just refuse to acknowledge the difference. Sigh...so be it. I'm down 3 sizes with 3 sizes more to go and I'm not going to let HER get me down... Keep your chin up - you're doing so great!

I LOVE hearing about others WOW moments! Congratulations on yours! Heather