Sorry to butt in, but...

(deactivated member)
on 7/12/05 7:04 pm
...I would like to share this month's rant from Susan Maria. I think we all need to read it. I can honestly say that while I may not be so good with the food sometimes (but I think I am most times , I take my vitamins RELIGIOUSLY, and I make sure my protein intake is AT LEAST 80-100 grams a day. Take your vitamins, please. And don't forget: Protein is KEY for us. Not enough protein=muscle mass loss. If nothing else, think about this: The HEART is a muscle. Does that give you a good perspective of what can happen if you neglect your protein intake? I sure hope so! ----- http://store.bariatriceating.com/thismonthsrant.html I just had the privilege of spending a week attending the American Society for Bariatric Surgery annual meeting in Orlando, Florida. Engaging in casual conversation with the top surgeons in this field, discussing vitamins, protein, calcium, and compliance issues was an opportunity that I won't soon forget. I was as excited to meet some of the 'famous' surgeons as I would be if Mick Jagger stepped up to my pink and black BariatricEating.com booth. Now... why this is a rant! These surgeons cannot fathom that after they save our lives that we have the audacity to be picky about nutrition! The way many of them see it is that we are NOT living up to our part of the deal. They perform life altering surgery to save us from a certain early death from morbid obesity, their office staff does battle with our insurance company to pony up tens of thousands of dollars to pay for our surgery as it is surely the only means by which we will survive, yet we are lackadaisical about putting a small pile of vitamins and minerals into our body every day, and are boldly noncompliant with protein requirements. The docs are even more incredulous about our pickiness with protein. When I would give them a taste of Vanilla Very Berry or Fuzzy Navel, their eyes would have a twinkle and they would love the taste but they would question as to why this was even an issue. It is cut and dry with the surgeons; they think it is a given that we do what we are supposed to do. These are no-nonsense men and women; when something is broken, they fix it. Some of them could not believe the letters and stories I related to them and had no idea that noncompliance was so widespread. Here is a message from your surgeon... Pick up the protein drink, the calcium, and the multivitamins and take them. There is no negotiating, there is no looking for a compromise, and there are no valid complaints about graininess, taste, or smell. Pick up the glass and drink the protein. Chew the tablets. Swallow that mouthful of calcium or vitamins. Period. We saved your life on that operating table, now do what you are supposed to do to maintain the health we have worked to give back to you. Fortunately there are drinks that taste good but as I have said before; if in order to be sitting here in size 10 jeans I had to drink a glass of toile****er every morning, I would gladly do it. In fact, if I had to drink a glass of water from my neighbor's toilet every day I would do it. Why is this so difficult to comprehend for some of you? Do you take the label morbid obesity so lightly that you don't think you have to perform certain tasks, that you have a responsibility as a post op. Look up the meaning of MORBID. That should be enough to scare you. Why would anyone not do what they were told when given a new lease of life with so few strings attached? I used to think that making pre-ops jump through hoops for weight loss to qualify for surgery was cruel but I have changed my mind after a year of speaking to thousands of pre and post ops. With so many people facing insurance rejection, how can we make sure that the ones who will not hold up the end of the bargain are put at the end of the line for approval? I think that strict compliance goals are a great way to weed out the disobedient. If you can't lose 10% of your body weight before surgery, you don't deserve to have it. If you can't stop smoking, you don't deserve this procedure. If you can't manage to choke down vitamins, calcium, B-12 and protein; too bad, let someone have the surgery that will. We all can mange to stick to a program short term. We are all experts at losing weight. We just can't keep it off; which is where the surgery comes in. It gives us the means of control we lack. As you can tell, this is NOT the week to write me an email and tell me that you cant 'tolerate' the taste of your protein, or that you cant 'tolerate' your chewables or your stomach feels 'icky' when you drink your protein. I have little lenience for weakness and whining. It will take a long time before I allow much room for the helplessness that I so often hear. I can't stand the word 'tolerate'... it is pure baloney. About 3 years ago I read a 'tough love' essay by an OH member named Leilani, and one line in particular resonates in my head; 'If this surgery doesn't slap a backbone in you, nothing will', as it is so true! Just do what you are supposed to do. Figure it out and make it happen. Thank goodness we have products that make it easier to stick with the program but the bottom line is that it shouldn't even matter. Ciao, Susan Maria ----- Angie http://www.geocities.com/tiger_angie
Towanda Strong3
on 7/12/05 8:41 pm - Somewhere in, CT
AMEN SISTER! Towanda
(deactivated member)
on 7/13/05 1:54 am - 'Burbs of St. Louis, MO
This rant, from a woman who sells the stuff...I'm not impressed with her lack of understanding of how it is for some people. For several months, I could not stomach another protein shake...they sent me puking. What good would that have been? Total noncompliance is one thing, but to be unforgivable to the fact that we are merely humans is ridiculous. Sorry, but judgemental rants really rub me the wrong way, whether it's the person's own ideas or someone spouting off what their surgeon says. No two people are alike, and life-saving or not, we cannot ALL be 100% perfect. Susan Maria can take her hoity toity business elsewhere. Toile****er, indeed! Pamela -109
(deactivated member)
on 7/13/05 2:14 am
I totally get what you mean, actually Just wanted to share the rant because I get worried/frustrated about those who don't get educated before going into this and end up actually damaging their health instead of the opposite We are all different and unique for sure!!! That's what makes the world a beautiful place Angie
deeno
on 7/14/05 5:24 am - Kokomo, IN
I'm right there with you, Pam. I haven't had a protein drink since ~ week 4. I get all of my protein from regular food like a regular person, and my blood work is fine. If I know I'm going to be "on the run" I'll eat some beef jerky or a protein bar. I'd barf if I drank another protein shake, but I do agree with comparing them to drinking my neighbor's toile****er *wink*. I still gag at the smell of those drinks. My hubby (3 years post op) loves 'em. We all just have different tastes. I wish I could stomach those drinks--perhaps I'd lose more weight if I could. But all the gagging and barfing isn't worth the 20 pounds I have left to lose--including skin (I'm starting to gag just thinking about protein drinks). Well, now there's a thought! Everytime I'm hungry I'll just think about a protein drink and I should instantly lose my appetite. Diana
(deactivated member)
on 7/14/05 5:44 pm
By posting the rant, I really just wanted to stress the importance of the vitamins and the PROTEIN, regardless of whether you drink it or eat it (there's definitely some serious debate about which is best). I personally do pretty much a combo of both, because I try to get in at least 80-100 grams (most days it's 120+) of protein, considering we don't really know how much of that we are actually absorbing, as we are no longer "regular people"... with our system having been so altered I basically have no issues with any type of food or drink... which is a good thing... great! BUT!!! I REAAAAAALLLLLY have to watch what I eat... because basically I have no dumping, no gagging, no nuthin! So I actually get to be responsible for what I put in my mouth... tee hee... Hugs, Angie http://www.geocities.com/tiger_angie
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