Sex drive gone after WLS??

Hey everyone... I know this question is very personal.....so if you dont want to answer it thats just fine, but I'd thought I'd ask. And I know there is a board for sex issues, but that board can be very umm nasty. So I thought I'd put it out to my friends here. Since surgery my sex drive is gone. Cant explain it, just dont want anything to do with it. Has this happened to anyone else? My spouse is really beginning to become irritated by it. Thanks ahead of time!! Michelle -83

Michelle, I don't really know any answer, but I have heard that hormones are greatly affected by the rapid weight loss. I had a hysterectomy about 5 years ago and found the same thing. Maybe a chat with your surgeon will help clear things up.... Hugs, Nancy -74

Hi Michelle, I don't have that problem but I do know that it is hormones.....talk to your doctor. I have been moody, easily brought to tears, cold, quick tempered and an increased sex drive. All bloodwork came back great but it is like I was pregnant....doctor says it is hormones....fatigue can also be part of this. You are perfectly normal...your body just can't adjust quickly to the great job you are doing with weight loss. Give it time but call your family doctor. Karen.

No, I have just the opposite problem. Sex is so much better since i've lost so much weight that I want it all the time. lol my hubby is 13 years older than me and he cant keep up!!!!lol

im with debra my sex drive is through the roof it even feels like my bf grew a couple of inches i feel like a teen again...... i went to wal mart and fit into little girl size 16 stretch jeans wooooo hoooooooooo that to me is amazing... if i were you i would call the doctor and dont worry we are bound to feel differently weather its good or bad we have underwent major changes your hubby is just going to have to be patient have a great day and congrats on your weight loss your doing great!!!!!!!!!!!11 Stacy 232/157/132 -75

I have had that to happen. It has gotten better here lately but I think that it is a combination of being tired and the hormonal changes. Carrie

I am the total opposite, I want it ALOT more than before. There are herbal remedies you can take to ramp up your drive that I saw on TV. I think I feel sexier and am much more interested than before, but I had a pretty high sex drive before the surgery too. Sorry I am not much help. Kristy B 306/241/165

Unfortunately the opposite has happened to me. I am horny all the time. I say "unfortunately" because I am not married and have no prospects-- and the man that I really love dumped me before surgery because he is SMO and was afraid I would eventually dump him. I feel like I am drowning in the dating pool. All the men I date from the internet want instant sex (WTF, can't a girl get some dinner first?). All the men I meet in bars are alcoholics. Basically I've decided that all those men are single FOR A REASON! It may not be apparent right away, but hells bells, you find out soon enough. Just a thought. Maybe he is not "workin it" enough. A married woman who works full time and who might have children is sooooooo stressed. Who has time for sex and how can you get aroused when you think about the laundry or dishes or kid's homework that has to be done. I tell all the married men that contact me (and there are LOTS) that they should be nicer to their wife, do spontaneous romantic things, and maybe help around the house so she isn't so tired--and then maybe their wives would be interested in sex with them. I also tell them not to expect change overnight. They have to "work it" not demand it like it is some kind of right. Hope my ramblings help or at least make you laugh. Christiana -75

I'm in the same boat as you Michelle. My sex drive was already bad from having 3yr old triplets and being obese, but after surgery its non-existant for some reason. I'm only 29 years old and my dh is very active and in great shape, and now that I'm only 43lbs from goal he says its like having the old me back from when we first started dating ( I was only about 165 when we started dating) and he wants it constantly. I feel terrible about it and I want to want it, but it just is NOT there. I see my dr today and I plan to talk about it cuz this just doesn't seem right. My dh is so patient and understanding but when we finally do have sex after like a month long wait for him he talks about it like it was his first meal in a year! LOL I hope it gets better for both of us!! Hugs, Deejay 257/193/150 -64 deejayswls.com