One year later - and what a year it has been

My one year surgiversary was on June 11th. It was a big day for me. On that day I had lost 190lbs - gone from a size 30W to a 10, a size 50 waist to a 32. My entire body and mind have undergone a transformation that is nothing short of miraculous. I have run two half marathons, a 5K, I'm playing softball and even women's arena football. I feel more alive than ever. On the flip side on June 11th - my 7 year marriage also ended. This has left me really feeling vulnerable and sad. I was wondering if anyone else has experienced relationship issues due to major weight loss? I know this is a personal and sensitive subject, but I wanted to ask others who are in the same boat as I am what their thoughts were. Thanks...

Kyla - I can't comment on relationships ending (mine are starting!), but am very sad for you that your wonderful new life is shadowed by this. Life seems to always be a struggle, right? I hope you are able to overcome the down side with all the other good parts of your new life. Congratulations and best wishes! Cleo

My surgeon interviewed my husband before he did my surgery. (This is husband #2, we celebrate our 10th anniversary on Sat.) They discussed how my husband would feel when I was thin. I guess many men can't handle the change well. This is the new healthy you and you do not need negative people or an unsupportive partner. The issue lies with him. Enjoy your new lease on life and a marriage ending may lead to wonderful new opportunities...it did for me! Good luck.

Kayla, congrats on your anniversary!!!! you look amazing and have done a amazing job!!! wow a 30w to a 10 THat's awesome!!! i still have my hubby and he is handling my weight loss great...the jealousy flares up every now and then but for the most he is good!! Sorry to hear about your marriage...........but count it his loss!!! (((((((((((big hug to you girl))))) Crystal

kyla I just saw this post and am so sorry about your marriage. I know at my psych eval the psychiatrist commented that he sees a lot of relationships end because the woman gets more confidant and the husband gets jealous. I'm so sorry and hope that in the end you wind up healthier and happier! hugs, judi