So, Does Anyone Else Not Like Coming to this Board???

I have to admit, I don't like coming to this Board anymore. And I know I am really really Bad for saying that. The truth is I am so jealous of those who have already reached their goal. I know I know, Belinda-we all lose at different paces....Belinda-all that matters is how You feel about your success..... But for some stupid Egoic reason, I am always comparing myself to you guys. How do you guys not do that? Or do you constantly compare yourself to others on the June board? I guess our one year is coming up quickly and I am feeling pressure to get down to 127lbs from my 178lbs current weight. Sorry, I guess I just needed to vent a little. Thanks for not banning me. Belinda aka Sarah_smile

Oh honey, don't ever feel bad for voicing your feelings. We are all here to support each other. I have at times had the WOW...how could they be at goal and I'm not. What am I doing wrong thinking. But then I realized that each and everyone of us are different. We each started at different weights, we each are different heights, etc. I had a BMI of 55 when I started. It's going to take me a lot longer to get to goal then someone that had a BMI of say 41. I just keep reminding myself of that and that I went into this surgery with a goal of getting my health. And...I have gotten that. I can breathe, I can not only walk, but jog now as well. I've gotten my health and I now say that if I lose anymore weight, it's a bonus. I'm still overweight, but I don't think I'll ever not be, I think I'd look really, really sick and what the charts say I should weight, so I have to be happy with how far I've come. And....YOU should be incredibly proud of how far you've come as well hon. Look at your pre-op picture and compare it to your most recent picture. That's the only thing I want to do comparisons on....it's hard, but I just keep reminding myself. Love you for what you've done...I do! Pam

Pam, I know, why are we our worst enemy? I have been doing the self talk and trying to focus on the present and not future, ie tummy tuck etc. cuz when i do start thinking of that i get discouraged. You wont see me post 'hey look at my new pics' or 'hey what do ya think of my glamour shots', etc. i dont write of wow moments. Its interesting though, that when we look at some of the newbies, their bmi's are less than what mine is now at 1yr out and they are just now having surgery. Its just baffling to me. thank you for your nice remarks pam...

Sweetie, we are all doing well on our journeys--including you! My weight loss has slowed to a dramatic crawl for months. But ya know what? That's OK ! I am considered a 'liteweight'--about 100 lbs to loose. I'd like to lose 107 lbs total but if I don't well...I don't! I figure it this way: My health has improved 90%. I was diabetic, giving myself two types of insulin two times a day. I was on a higher dose of BP meds and I was on 4 different meds for anxiety and depression. I lived on Aleve or motrin or various other pain killers because my joints hurt so friggen bad. I still have arthritis but it's not as bad. Stairs--I can climb them w/o being winded. And the list goes on. I look at friends I have made who had their surgery before me and got to goal quicker. I get a little envious at times too. Heck we are human it's only natural. Look at your preop pics you have changed so much and you look wonderful. No Junesters are ever banned--we have a great group here. hugs, Jen

Gee, Belinda, I'm hating that you're feeling this way. Yes, I do compare myself to others in MANY ways (hair, teeth, fingernails, eyes and yes weight!). Sometimes I think I'd rather be shorter (so someone would call me petite), then I realize being tall gives me a chance to be called tall and thin (WOW!). So, instead, I try to concentrate on comparing myself to me then and now instead. Realize, too, that is how many people are seeing you: you now, compared to you last June and I bet they LOVE what they see in you now! Please don't belittle all that you've done to date; it's such an achievement. And you know what? I'll never think of you as 178-lb Belinda - you have attributes other than your weight. I prefer to think of you as Belinda who has courage and a wonderful smile!

(((((((((BELINDA)))))))))))) Never ever band you girl!!! I know I am one of those that have reached their goal, but I still compare myself with others!!!! I when I am out and about look at other women and still have the big girl syndrome.......don't know why I guess it comes from so many years of the mental anguish of being the "big girl"when i just look down at myself I don't feel little.........however when i do look back at my pics and look in the mirror i think wow i have gotten so small but then of course i start seeing all my flaws!!! I think it is natural that we compare ourselves to others and sometimes even envy....the GREAT THING IS.....we all look at each other on here and we ALL SEE the progress each one of us has made....when i look at your pic I THINK WOW SHE LOOKS AMAZING AND SOOOO THIN.......beautiful woman!!! I am so proud of each and everyone of us on here and how far we all have come!!! keep your chin up girl YOU TRUELY LOOK AMAZING!!!!

Hi Belinda: I have major envy sometimes but part of the reason I try to keep posting here is because I am one of the slower losers. I think there are a lot of us who don't post as often so we just need to speak up! I am thrilled, while envious, for our super fast losers but I do understand what you are saying. Hang in there, looks to me like you are doing great! judi

I come to this board often, but never post. I know what you mean though... I compare too and see how far everyone has come. Even you are closer to your goal weight than I am. I've lost 173 with the sleeve and I've still got 102 left till I get to my goal weight... but even that doesn't give me a normal BMI... I'd still need to lose another 20-25 pounds to do that on top of the 102 that I have left. You are really doing great! As hard as it is. Don't compare. Go by how you feel, like you said. I know I feel fantastic compared to how I felt this time last year. Celebrate all the small things... Sending you a hug! ~Lauren~

Yea, Lots of times. Esprcially Monday Weigh In. I haven't lost in quite a while. I feel really bad. And then ..I say to myself"I haven't gained any I've lost either. It'll start back soon ( I hope). Any suggestions on how to kick start the stall would be greatly appreciated. I know one problem is that I need more fluid in my band. All but 2cc's were removed when the port was put back in. Doc wants me to get back the fluid slow because I live sooo far away from him.(he say's he's afraid I'll have a problem & be in trouble because of the distance. I'm hungery all the time. My thermatast regular is broken like it was before my first surgery.

I just have to say one thing,,,, You Guys are Awesome! I am so glad I am not alone in my feelings. I dont sit and dwell on it, but I remember coming here alot more in the past. And seeing how supportive you guys are, which I apparently decided to forget that part about you all, I am definitely going to be back. hugs to all, belinda