it finally happened

Ok my best friend and i had it out......since i have been having surgery she has really not been very positive..... 1). everytime someone says something about how great i look she always says how she has lost 28lbs. 2) she has made rude comments about all my new clothes how she doesn't like tall boots,leggings,or she doesn't like the style of my new sweater etc etc.....but then always ends well it looks good on you. 3)FINALLY SHE SAID WELL AT LEAST I LOST MY WEIGHT ON MY OWN......I SAID ya all the diet pills you live on and it wasn't like i didn't have a major surgery and everyday have to watch everything i eat and then i still might get sick....no i am not doing any of this on my own at all it was really just a quick fix......DUH so it finally is out in the open that she can't stand that i have lost weight and is mad or jealous or whatever. I really don't know why she is thin to begin with and very tal i think she is 5 11

I'm sorry you had it out with your best friend, but she had it coming. Why can't people just be happy for each other...no matter how or why we all had this surgery it is making us HEALTHIER she should just be grateful that she will have her BEST FRIEND around longer and probably able to do more things with. I will keep her and everyone else that thinks this isn't a difficult choice to have to make for ourselves in prayer. I know it was for me. Anyway *hugs* Hopefully she'll come to her wits and realize your friendship is more important than her having the spotlight on her all the time. You deserve spot light too hunny! Look atchya!!

i hope by clearing the air she can get over it. I'm sure she was used to being the skinny hot friend and you were the bigger hot friend. competition is a b*tch. I'm sure there is some insecurity and jealousy involved. judi

Egad, just what you need - a jealous, skinny friend to go with all the hard work you're doing! Get up on a ladder, look her straight in the eye and say, "I love you, too, and thanks for all your support!" Instead of a ladder, consider taller boots! LOL! There are so many ways to comment on things you don't like, none of which it seems your friend knows. How about, "Wish I looked as good in dem boots and dress as you do!" Love ya, girl, and WE know what you've done to get where you are! ((((HUGS))))

ya im going through the same kinda thing with my BFF and my SISTER!! My BFF is not really BAD but I can tell she is kinda irritated that I am starting to get more attention than her.............we have been friends since highschool and whenever we go out she has always been the one getting all the male attention..........and now she has to share it and she HATES it!! LOL............finally last weekend she said "I hate that your getting skinny, you got hit on way more than me!" (joking but you could since some serious behind it) At least she said something and isnt TOTALLY ignoring me like my sister........ Me and my sister were super close pre-op and now we hardly EVER talk and when we do she doesnt really want to know anything about my weight loss and doesnt act excited at all......... its kinda sad but I guess its probably hard since shes struggling with her own weight loss right now.........BUT HEY!.........she has recently lost over 50 lbs on her own!!

You have been so great and supportive to so many people on this board that I am sorry you had to get this flack from your friend. It has been hard on my wife seeing me lose all my weight so quickly. She has just had lap band. My wife thought I had it easy until I broke it down for her that just because I had the gastric surgery it doesnt mean I don't make tough choices every day for my sucess. Now I am down 132 pounds. I've lost a whole person. I am hoping I have lost that person in me who enjoyed being fat. It just seems now I enjoy living a healthier lifestyle. I enjoy the lack of aches and pains of carrying around all that extra weight. Finally I can do everything I wanted to do with my life but never had the strength to do before like eating to live instead living to eat. Am I still overweight? Yes, but I look great...and I'm moving in the right direction. It is tough sometimes when you realize the people you care about get jealous or upset with you when you want nothing but the best for them. The best thing you can be is an example. Be the person you are who is positively moving in the right direction. A postive person is a happy person and if she wants to be happy she will support you. Thank Crystal for being a beacon of hope, communication and strength for the people on the board. Oh and sorry I have been away for awhile everybody I am just slammed with work lately. However, I will try to write more. Updating my pictures is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay overdue too. Of course, there is next month's issue of playgirl if you want to check me out lol. Take care...stay strong.

Hey Bill Great to see you and hope to see "more" of you. So,,cover or centerfold???LOL

Centerfold of course!

OH MY...I had read many post like these over the years and every time I do I phone my best friend and thank her.... She has been VERY VERY supportive. Everyday she tells me how good I look and how proud she is of me and how happy she is for me. She to has changed her eating habits since I had my surgery and has lost 30 lbs all by herself ( meaning without surgery) She didnt have nearly as much to loose as me, she strted at 205. But I tell her how proud I am of her because she was able to do what I wasnt...loose weight without surgery. Sorry to hear your friend was behaving that way....Like others have said...hopefully haivng cleared the air you will be able to improve your friendship?? Becky

i JUST want to say thank you for all of you and your support to ME on here!!! I really don't know what I'd do without you guys on here!!!!! You all listen to me vent, and be goofy and yack yack about my new house, and my job, the weight, the struggles, the ups and downs,my arm(lol) I JUST LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND YOU ALL KNOW I LOVE YOU BACK AND THERE ISN'T NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT!!!! THANKS AGAIN!