Emotions Running above and beyond HIGH.. HELP

Ok so here is the deal. I am a walking basket case, I was totally fine and PUMPED.. now starting this liquid diet tells me I am just a few days away. My family and Friends are saying some messed up stuff, I am freaking out . It is almost as if they are waiting for me to fail. They keep bring food to me KNOWING that I am on liquids for the next 14 days. They keep using words like , " YOUR LAST" Your last meal.. your last steak... your last time having this happen .. your last time doing this or that.. It make s me feel like I am going to die on that table or something. The protein drink are disgusting and people see me drinking it in disgust and they always say something smart like... " Well, all this cause you can't put the fork down!" I am always on the brink of tears .. and my emotions are OUT OF CONTROL I Know I want and need to do this... but why am I feeling I should run to the nearest exit screaming .." NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!" Any advice? Blessings, Valarie

I am so sorry that people are doing that to you. I did my "last meal" thing a couple times before I started my liquid diet. I know that it truely isn't my last time eating that stuff, it is just the next time I won't eat as much. I will get to have left overs! I just had my bypass on the 6/7/07 and I don't regret it. It has been hard for me to realize what an addiction I had to food, but I know that I can't continue to gain weight. People can be cruel when they try to sabbotage any diet. I think it is because they can't stand to see anyone succeed, it has to do with their own failures. Stay strong! You can do this. When they bring you food to eat, ask them why??? Why would they want to temp you when they are the ones who seem to think you did all this to yourself because you couldn't put down a fork! What fools they are!!! Keep your chin up. Besides, I think the rollercoaster ride of emotions has a lot to do with no more carbs while on your protien drink!! It did strange things to me, I was on 5 shakes a day and all the s/f drinks but I tell you, my brain was in a fog in the beginning. I was run down and tired and could hardly get out of my own way. But this too shall pass! Just listen to your heart! You know what you need to do. Don't run out the door just yet! Sorry for my rambling. God Bless and many (((((((HUGS))))))) to you! Kim

Ya Im going thrrough the same thing right now.........(along with everyone else on here) Just try and ignore everybodys silly comments............they probably dont know what to say so they just joke around a little too much...... Hang in there.............your going to be BEAUTIFUL! -Katie

Hey Valerie First of all take a deep breath. You are doing this for you and no one else. I am sorry people are being mean to you, that just isn't fair, not to mention it is not your last meal and your last steak and your last anything. You just won't be able to have those things for a while. I am on day 8 of the 14 day pre-op liquid diet and I can't say it has been easy, but I haven't cheated even once. You can do this. What kind of protien drink are you having to drink? Mine are really pretty good, of course the longer I go the better they get... hehehe I know the liquid diet is primarily to shrink your liver, but let me tell you it has helped in so many ways. I no longer think about what I am going to eat for b-fast and then lunch and then dinner. Doesn't even cross my mind anymore. I feel a little bit hungry, I go make me a shake. I have been drinking lots of water to to try and get things cleaned out. So you might try that too to help you keep full.. I will tell you too that I have never been able to stick to any plan for even 4 or 5 days without cheating, so if I can do this I know you can too... Feel free to email me anytime for some support... Congratulations on your date, you have worked hard for this... Don't give up!! Lots & lots of hugs!! Donna

Donna, you took the words right out of my mouth!! My prayers are with all of you/us...it's a rollercoaster journey but in the end we'll be so glad we took the bad with the good to get to where we're going! It only makes us stronger. Because even when we lose the weight there will be people finding something else to say thats smart. Unfortunately Keep up the good work!! Hugs!

You can always come back with "the last time you see me fluffy, you will not be saying that for long, about I can not put the fork down", sounds like some of them are jealous.

Hi Valarie, Hang in there! It is hard when your family is not as supportive as they could be during your pre-op time. I had a similar experience with my extended family but definitely not to the extent that you have dealt with. I received comments like "Oh, I had to lose mine the old-fashioned way" and "I hope this really fixes the problem, and you can keep it off this time." I was already an emotional wreck (I think the liquid diet does something to our hormones), and then I was hearing these snotty remarks on top of it. It was hard to take, but I just tried to ignore it (after a crying spurt or two) and several pep talks from my hubby and tried to focus on taking care of me. Keep up the great work and know that you are doing this for you and your health! Stick to your liquid diet, and try to ingnore the temptation that your family is throwing at you. I firmly believe that we will all find that our willpower in those icky pre-op days was only paving the way to our future success. Hang in there and keep your chin up! We're definitely saving you a place on the loser's bench. Amanda

Hi Valarie my name is laurie and i am almost 3 years out (my RNY was 8/18/04) i remember these moments quite clearly. i remember being scared out of my mind after my pre-op "meeting" with the coordinator at the hospital. you will never drink soda again, do not EVER have a alcoholic drink, you will EVER eat sugar again. i remember people telling me I was going to change, i wouldn't be the same person. and then on top of that well meaning friends and family doing "internet" research and hearing things about 1-100 people dying and so on and so forth. EVERYTHING is going to be different, and on and on and on! i am here to tell you the truth. the truth is that EVERYTHING is going to be different, but not in a scary way. and you are going to change, but it's amazing what will happen to you, not bad. you are right to be scared and nervous and most of these people who are saying these things to you are doing so because THEY are scared and nervous. the first 6 months or so, you won't be able to eat normal things. this is true. and you will have to relearn your stomach and your tolerance's. you probably will be able to have sugars, but no hwere close to what you used to do. Maybe dairly will get to you or high fats,... this is all true, but it isn't as hard when you are living it as it seems when you are only hearing about it. when you are living it, you are seeing changes right before your eyes every day, so a low tolerance for milk doesn't seem like such a big deal. does that make sense? i am now 3 years out and my weight has been stabelized for about 2 years. this means if i am not careful i can put some weight back on. if i graze around too much i put on a coupla pounds. i put on 3 pounds on my recent honeymoon. but you see it and you remind yourself to be smart and you go back to eating the right way! you are going to be fine. and don't be afraid to tell these people around you to just shut up! lol tell them that you are nervous enough with out thier comments and ask them to just silently support you! you have made the wisest choice anyone can,.. you have chosen to take a step for your own health and happiness. best of luck to you and God Bless Laurie Fetzer