I weighed 245 pounds when I went for my WLS consult around this time two years ago. I weighed 240 day of surgery. I stand 4'11.5". I managed to get to 154 this year but I have pretty much maintained at 155. This year has been very stressful. My husband was sent to Guantanamo Bay for 14 months. He comes home, finally next month on the 10th. I weighed 164 when he left, got to 154 in January... and I am back at 164 today. I gained just in the last couple months. I know that the loneliness got to me. I had a 20 year old, a 13 year old and a 2 year old to take care of...and its not always a lot of fun. lol Hubby visited during the year twice and each time I lost several pounds while he was here (I even saw 149 for a day!)...and promptly put them back on once he left. I've fallen into the old trap of eating late at night, grazing, and snacking on tootsie rolls mindlessly. Although I am not freaking out about the weight gain, I am disappointed. Remember when we first started out and we said a lot of "OH, I'd never do that!" when we'd hear vets complaining about going back to bad habits? I understand now how easily it happens. I do want to say I LOVE being a size 14. After 17 years of being morbidly obese, I will NOT complain about my size now. My shirts are sometimes size small, depending on the cut! In fact it seems that I've lost all th fat uptop and my bottom half just needs to catch up. I've gone from apple shape to pear shape! I was thinking about this the last couple weeks... I am certain that my brain has finally had time to catch up with my wieghtloss after mostly maintaining for a year. So now I am feeling fat again...because I am still obese at this weight for my height. That changes in just 15 pounds though. Who knows..maybe my body needed the rest. Now its had it and its time to get back to work. I've talked to hubby about it and he's perfectly happy with where I am. I've been morbidly obese our entire marriage (15years), so he's happy with any improvement. Although I am disappointed that I seem to have wasted a year, I also know that without my RNY, I would have GAINED evn more weight while he was gone without it. I would have reached 260. I know it in my gut and in my heart. So I am thankful for where I am at. So, to start on my next journey, which is heading towards my personal goal of 130, I made a consult with a plastic surgeon in San Antonio. Our next duty station is in Japan and we will be making more money, which will be saved to pay for a tummy tuck and breast lift next year. I plan on having the TT and BL next April... even if I can 'only' reach the 140s. My sagging body is really getting to me, so it will be good to know I have this to look forward to next year. I have a feeling this year in Japan will be awesome...and with so many things to do there, the boredom and loneliness will stop. I didn't realize just how much I depend on my husband now. That's one good thinng I did learn this year.

Hey Tiffany I too have recently slipped and and I am sick about it. I had surgery June12 like you and started at 345 as well so our stories are quite similar I went down to 207 lbs and at about a year out I noticed that I didnt get sick on anything so I constantly pushed the envelope and hardly ever dumped. I also managed to maintain the 207 for a long time regardless if what I ate.To make matters worse I started smoking again at abour 2 weeks after surgery and quit Jan 1st of 08. So since then I have had an insatiiable urge to eat all the time. I went from a size 52 in jeans to 36 and I have been noticingthat lately they are getting more and more snug. I have made all kinds of reasons like I just washed my jeans and thats why they are tight but I know deep down inside I am filling them in more than before. Last week I saw my mom for the first time in like a month and the first words from her were you are gaining weight. Again I was like not really but I knew better. At work one of my employees came to me privtely nd tole me to be careful as he would hate to see me get back to the 345 I used to be and he had noticed I was gaining. So this week I finally went on the scale and I see I am up to 218 so I have gained about 11 pounds. I am shattered and was in shock eventhough I knew what I was doing all along. So I hope your struggle is under control If you have any tips you can share I would greatly appreciate it. We did not go through the struggle to end up right back where we started. Good luck to you !!!!!!!

I reached my doctors goal and my goal in Dec 2006, but i bottomed out at 105!!! That was way to skinney. I have since gained to 135 and holding. I hover between 130 and 140, depending on the time of the month and how active I am. I am happy at 135. Lower I look terrible and at 140 I feel fat. Can you believe we can still feel fat. I need to break all mirrors, no wait mirrors are the thing that makes my brain say are you nuts. Oh well,.... regrets???? I have none.

Thank you for sharing this...I've been on the Sex Before and After site hoping to get some answers and understanding, but they all seem to have increased sexual drive. I, like you, have found that my drive seems greatly decreased...and it is difficult for me. Poor DH, he is so patient and loving. And the saggy skin is doing a number on me also...part of me thinks I looked better fat (at least in the nude). I look much better clothed now - and feel so much better so I'm definately not regretting my decision. How are you doing with your weight. I've stopped losing and maintaining at 158 lbs lost. I was hoping to drop to 150, but am 10 lbs less than the doctors goal, so am OK with my loss. I am finding myself adopting some of my old habits - and am really working to "fix" them before they gt out of hand. Thanks for letting me rattle on. I wish our board was more active...oh well!

Hey everyone, Have not been on in a long time...Just want to see if I 'm the only one struggling with some relationship issues since surgery. Been feeling like I reserve more. So I was just wondering