Hi Geek! i also had my life change 6-06. i am down 190 lbs and loving it! i go next month for my 2 year check up. size wise went from a 28 down to a 10! would love some plastics, but not possible, oh well, no one sees under the clothes other than my dh and he loves me-wrinkles and all!!lol. congrats on the plastics! i would do it again also. my oldest son is in the process of getting approved right now. have a great day! teri

Sorry I am just now seeing this. I haven't been on in a while. My hubby and I have been having numorous marital issues. It is almost two years since my surgery and I have lost a total of 164 lbs. Men have started noticing me and flirting. My hubby has become more like a dictator and father figure, rather than a husband and lover. We are also struggling with the whole empty nest syndrome since our last child has left home. It has been very hard. Regardless of the saggy skin, I met a man who didn't care about that, and I ended up having an affair with him. I hurt his family and I hurt mine. My hubby and I are working through our problems, but there is so much damage that I don't know if we can recover from this. We've been married for 26 years. Honestly, I'm not 100% sure I still love him. This has been so hard and I don't know why I did it. It is all very sad.

Welcome to the group. I suggest picking up the "Beck Diet Solution".. it deals with the mental side of 'dieting' and eating issues and what not... I just started to read but it was reccomended by a psychologist who handles EDs/overeating that spoke at my support group - I know a few other OHers have reccomended it as well. Its important to work on the mental side since the physical side has been 'fixed'. I do think about food a lot but in a different way... I had a metabolism test done and am trying to figure out how to eat 1800 calories a day! I was eating around 1100 so its a lot of food... I am currently working on getting to 1400... I have to keep thinking about food because I have to keep eating it so much!!! lol. I do find I occasionally have the 'head hunger' issues but really think about things before I eat them and try and decide if its even worth eating. Just try and get refocsed... go back to foodlogging and think about why you had this surgery and where you came from... dont let old habits 'ruin' all your success!

Quit wishsing and let's get active. I've been MIA for a while but I'm here now. I went through a point of running to bed before my DH so I realistically fake sleep, hopping out of bed early so I wouldn't have to tell him no. That went on for 2 weeks around 5 months out. I had no interest in sex/ making love. My hubby is so romantic and unpredictable I was just not feeling the primal urges.. He sat me down and fronted me on the issue and he asked me to have a talk w/ myself to find out what's going on. (This is going from 2x's a day to cold turkey)I realized I just needed time to get to know my body all over again. All the new little creases and folds. As you exercise and remember the real reason why we've had WLS, you'll know, and come to remember that the reason we took the road is because YOU LOVE YOURSELF!! It will get better!!

This is the first time I am going on this web site. Not too sure what I am doing !!!! I hear everyone at the meetings talking about it and decided to try it. I enjoy going and talking at the monthly meetings. So I thought I might like to try this as I could use a little more encourgagement more than once a month. I am going thru a hard time right now. Seems I am thinking about food all the time and am sliping into some old habits again. I hope this is just a phase and it will pass. But I am concerned !!! I am trying very hard to fight these feelings. Does anyone out there have this problem?? I am 1 Year and 9 months out. I have lost 180 lbs and need to lose 40 more. I know the window I hear about will be closeing sooner later and I want to get to my goal before it does. My OH group is great.