Just sharing a nice story...

I thought I would share my day yesterday...... I went to another town and met up with a woman I had gone to school with. We have been friends for 33 years. Sometimes we might not see eachother for two years but we always seem to pick up from where we left off. Anyway, at school she was the skinny one.... I mean skinny... with long blonde hair. I was the very fat brunnette. We were an odd mix for best friends. I wondered how she would react when she saw me as she has put on significant weight due to a back injury and diabetes problems. For the first time in our lives I was the smaller one. She couldn't have been happier for me and made me get in her car and off shopping we went. Until more recent years she has been somewhat of a fashion guru and knows what clothes to buy, what goes with what etc, whereas I'd always buy clothes because they actually fit or for their camoflague value. We were like teenagers in shop dressing rooms - giggling and throwing clothes left, right and centre. "buy it Sharyn, it looks great - you deserve it"!! I had a great afternoon and my faith in humans was somewhat rejuvenated and I was reminded what real friendship is all about - someone being genuinely happy for you despite their own cir****tances.

Sharyn that is so wonderful. So many times on these boards we read about jealous friends and people losing their friends because they don't like what they see anymore. How great to hear another side of the story. So what clothes did you get? Michelle

Hi Michelle, I bought a couple of new tops..... I couldn't bring myself to buy the white trousers lol. I also bought a silk chamisole with matching silk boxer shorts Yeah I think its nice to remember the good things that are happening to us. Its so easy to focus on the negatives. I think the day made such an impression on me because of the more catty and negative remarks I've had. I must visit her more often Sharyn.

That's so wonderful, Sharyn. I'm glad you had a great time with your friend!

I have a sister in law who every time she gets around other family members she makes it a point to say just so I can hear it that I took the easy way out. She is bigger than I am. She mainly says it when some one comments about my weight loss. I tell her I don't see anything easy about what I had done. This was one of the hardest things I have ever done. Of course she is always negative. She was very mean on Easter to me as she grazed on candy for the biggest part of 2 hours. She kept asking me if I could eat one kind or another when I told her no she would pop it in her mouth and say wow thats to bad. I have the same problem with a co-worker her face turns red and she won't talk to me for a couple days after someone comments on how good I am doing. I ask alot if something is Sugar Free because I get very sick when I have sugar, she alway says Yes there is sugar in it quit asking and get over it. Why are people like that I wonder. A few of the ladies I work with (the above co-worker included) all joined Weigh****chers, they all come back from weighing in and I am always supportive of them. I don't think I have it in me to be that cruel. Thanks for letting me vent.

Gee Alice.... I think after this time I'd be stomping on both of them (verbally of course..maybe lol). I would have to ask "what is your problem"? I had trouble particularly with one co-worker. I would have my Mp3 player on and she would say what are you listening to? A tape saying..dont eat dont eat dont eat. Stuff like that. At first I would laugh it off then I lost my temper and asked her just what her problem was. She is also bigger than me..a lot bigger. She looked like I had slapped her in the face then burst out crying saying she was so sick of being fat. I have found the 'worst' people are the big people - and you know what? That's their problem - you don't have to wear it. I have had trouble with my mother (who has never been fat) who would continually tutt and shake her head at me. Just yesterday she commented that my face was getting thin. So I responded by saying..mum, I don't have to take blood pressure or diabeties medication anymore, I am much healthier..aren't you happy for me? She didn't know what to say. If you have other supportive family members I would be getting them to tackle the sister in law....especially your brother. Or simply dont be around her if you can possibly avoid it. No one should be negating the brave step you have taken and the hard work you have done. Just remember to ask yourself who has the problem - you don't. Good luck, Sharyn

Thanks Sharyn that is why I come to this site, I know everybody here has been through the same thing. Don't get me wrong I have a great support system at home, but its not the same as talking to people who have been there. My family is totally behind me (Well except for the SIL) and as for talking to my brother, well we are lucky to get a grunt out of him. When I am feeling bad I come here and read the post and feel better by the time I log off. I am so greatful for all the people here. I know I don't post as often as I should but just reading sometimes helps out tremendously.