See, the thing is...

I will talk you y'all until I'm blue in the face about what I'm going through, but I have a damn hard time talking to others about "my journey". I understand that people here at work want to be supportive of me. I told them about the surgery and it's been really cool for the most part. I don't want to tell them how much I'm losing though. I think they see me at the gym sweating through a T-shirt and assume I should be losing faster than I am. So now whenever anyone brings up the subject I do my damndest to switch topics as fast as I can. It's not that I don't want to talk about it dear co-workers; it's that I don't want to talk about it with you. Am I alone here?

No, you aren't. I feel like all of us here on the MB and those at my WLS support group are going through what I'm going and understanding what I'm going through. And don't mind if I'm talking about it a lot. I have one close friend I've talked to but now I'm starting to feel like she might think it's all I ever talk about. Well, it's the biggest thing going on in my life right now, and with all the food tracking, exercise tracking, what should I eat, what not? It's always on my mind, you know. I really don't like talking about it much with non-WLSers. I don't know if I think they won't understand (probably not) or if I think they think I should lose faster or if I'm worried about "the look". I'd rather just not talk about it much, you know?

Hi Daniel! You are soooooo not alone on this one! I skate around this subject with NON-WLSer's too,I went to the pharamacy the other day and my pharmacist to whom I have been very good friends with for years started playing the #'s ? game and I was so uncomfortable and I "suddenly dropped my purse" so I would have to bend down and ignore the ? then I had to go "I was in a hurry" and have the talk to another time.."right" and this is one of many times I have encountered this.Actually I am getting sick of it. I honestly think, my opinion here only, is that they want to be nosey and find out "just how much you weigh"and no matter what anyone says lets face the truth, people LOVE TO TALK! friends,family,PHARMACISTS..I guess I am paranoid from all the scrutinizing over the years. I look at it this way If I wanted you to know I would tell you! Daniel I too am only comfortable talking about it to all of you and my friends here at home that have had WLS. Why,because we are all the same,we are going through the same ordeals and WE DO NOT JUDGE ONE ANOTHER! WE SUPPORT ONE ANOTHER! Just my 2 cents...well that was pretty long...3 cents.. Nanc

Hi Daniel, I can't relate to the co-worker thing, everyone where I work is pretty emotionally detached (or maybe the optimistic part of me should say sensitive ). The one that gets me is my mother. She has always been pretty judgmental about people's appearance, in spite of being obese herself. Unfortunately, she lives next store (a long story). Anyways, she asks me everyday if I am still losing weight. It's those comments like, "you look so good", that should feel nice to hear, but instead feel like "you looked like crap before". Anyways, we're all doing fabulously well with this thing, don't you think? So lets just thumb our own noses at the nosy parkers. Lori