im so frickin scared

AND I DONT KNOW WHY... i wasnt scared untill about two days ago and I have no idea why...Im afraid Ill mess up and eat the wrong thing or too fast or not chew enough or that i will hate the things I am not able to eat anymore..or i will never change my thinking and just screw my band up. Or I will be in debt forever and hate myself for it...or i will have hanging skin to the floor and my husband will say EWWWW..... or people will think it being weired that im skinny...by besfriend is so supportive but at the end of her email yesterday she said..."it will be weired to see you skinnier than me...but I will still love you just the same...WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN... I know i just need to calm down..but I cant...urgggg

Not sure how close your surgery is... but I was so right there with you last week. Just about 3 days before my surgery I freaked. I actually have a few relatives that are upset with me because I didn't take their phone calls in those last days. I just absolutely couldn't talk to someone who was going to offer me an out in any way shape or form. If they weren't 100% behind what I was doing, I couldn't talk to them. I was scared of all the things that you mentioned. I can only tell you that I got there that day and did what I had to do. I have no long term advice. Only HUGGGSSSSSSS to offer. Laney

I'm choosing to focus on everything I'll be able to do after the surgery and after I loose some of the weight. Am I scared about the surgery itself? A little. But I'm more scared about what will happen if I don't have the surgery. I don't want to keep doing what's been done before. That's got me to where I'm at. My 2 cents. -Daniel

Hi Jessica. My 1st advice for you is to pray. I think I was most afraid when I was trying to decide if I was going to pursue the surgery. I prayed about it for months and suddenly it was like my body said "it's time". I am a pretty selfless person. I always put my family first. This time I am putting myself 1st so I will be around for my family. My immediate family wasn't really supportive initially but my enthusiasm has won them over. The other family members that I felt would not support me I haven't told. Because I have a young daughter and I don't want her to have a negative body image, we don't use the skinny or fat word in my house. My goal is to be healthy and if skinny is a side-affect so be it. As for your husband, if he loves you he'll love all of your loose skin too. I have been warned about some friend issues. Your roles are changing. You will no longer be the "fat friend" the one who they can tell anything to because you aren't a threat. All I can say to that is be patient with them. You will change and who they think you are or who they expect you to be will to. I hope this helps. MsSmiles

Just calm down. I am exactly one week out of surgery today. It is not all that bad, some pain, but tolerable. I just take things day by day. Everything will all come together in its own time. This surgery is a learning experience for all of us and I don't think we all will experience it the same. Lots of similarities, but differences too. I know I am happy that the surgery is over and now the real fun begins. Good luck with your impending surgery, it will be a success!! Julie

Hi Jessica, I just had my sugery 5 days ago,the night before I had a TOTAL meltdown,just like yours,it is normal to have these feelings. You are doing this for you sweetie! take a DEEP BREATH and take things one at a time. Stay Focused on the reasons you ARE having this surgery,the positive things. You will do just wonderful! Jessica if you need someone to talk to drop me a email or a phone call at an time. God Bless! Nancy 6-8-06

It'll all be over soon. We are SO over this fat and feeling like **** No more being self conscious . No more taking 2 hours to find an outfit to wear . No more double chin . NO more belly rolls . No more hating what we see in the mirror . No more being tired . No more nasty boils in between our thighs . No more avoiding trips to the beach/pool . Time to start living . You'll do great and you're in our thoughts and prayers! See you on the flip side!

Jessica, I don't have anything to add, the others have given good advice, but I'm pretty scared about the aftermath too. The surgery itself doesn't bother me, but the aftermath is a little scary. We're surgery buddies - I'm on the 30th too! Hang in there, you'll get through it , I'm sure I will, and I KNOW I'm going to feelso much better thin, then I do now. Good luck! You can do this! (((HUGS))) K

Jessica, Today is my surgery and honestly for the very first time I am scared too...I'm not so scared for the surgery itself but scared I won't do everythign right...So you are not alone and we can always come here to make sure we are doing things right..Best of luck to your surgery Deb C