need help dealing with people

Hi all, I havent posted in a while . I have been lurking but this has been bothering me lately. I have lost 102 lbs so far and feel great. the problem is people tell me I look great and want to know how I did it, when I tell themthat I had WLS they make me feel like I did some thing wrong. So will even say that I took the easy way out. It makes me feel terrible. Has anyone else gone thru this and how do you deal with them. thanks for letting me vent Andrea

Hey love........... You know--- be strong in your dicision.............. you have to be the best for you. I had exausted all options and WLS was my last result. I love what we have done............. this was the best choice ever. Dont be down because of people. This was a life changing choice that enabled us to have a longer life and a 2nd chance to get it right. Someone will always try to judge BUT--- THIS ONE WAS FOR YOU................ and you owe this joy to yourself. Renee'

Andrea, Hun the hell with other people...You did this for YOU and YOU alone! If people can not understand then so be it. I am tired of hearing about the "easy" way out as well but now I just giggle and when they ask me why I was laughing I say "yeah easy" to them and nod my head....some ask to explain and I do....which after they are educated and maybe will not do that to another but some just walk away not knowing what just happened. Most people do not know enough about this surgery and they only know what is on TV so it comes down to ignorance. Just shrug it off as that hun and move forward.....I am sure after losing 102 lbs YOU LOOK GOOD!!! Enjoy it and your new life!!! Debra P

Andrea I feel that the ignorace of others cannot cause negativity for me. I feel it is important to remember a couple of things. Most people are not educated about this surgery and just hear snipets of success stories and that when someone changes for the better it create angst for those and brings their own issues to the forefront. Misery love company. Just understand that it is their issue not yours. You can defend your choice and try to educate them if it is someone important enough to do so or just let them have their say knowing you know better. Well that is just my two cents on how i handle it. Monica

I haven't faced this yet, but I expect it. I also expect bad comments etc. I would not worry about it. If it is someone who is not "close" to you, you can just tell them you changed your diet. That is not a lie, and it's really not their business. Be proud of you!

I usually start with a big hearty gufaw laugh and say if that was easy i don't want to know what hard is. or Do it yourself then tell me how "easy it was" Usually to people i don't know very well that i think are just being nosey.. when they ask i simply tell them i have sacrificed a lot to get were i am and i am happy to be this far into the journey.