feeling quite depressed!

I have to say that I am feeling quite depressed about my weight loss. I have been on a stall for quite a while, but have also been having some medical problems as well. Everyone seems to have started out a lot smaller than me. I was just wondering if there are any of you out there who started out about where I did-278lbs. My size 16 are falling off me, and I am just getting into a size 14. I have lost 90lbs., but still just feel so large. I know this is something I have to get over myself, but it's hard when people who see you and know you've had the surgery exspect you to be a size 0 or something. Can anyone out there relate? Thanks! Rachel

Hi Rachel, First of all screw everyone else!! I am tired of hearing crap from people too! They act like we should examples to others since what we did was so "extreme"! Give me a break!!! Okay, sorry for the vent!!! 90lbs. is great!!! I started out at 275 and I know what you mean. There are days when I look in the mirror and say OMG! I looked thin (which is rare) Most of the time it's "God, I've lost 80lbs and still look like this!!! We are our worst critics!!! You are doing great! Keep up the good work!! My 16's are kinda loose too!!! 14's here we come!! ~Alisha 275/196/170ish!

Rachel, I am so sorry you are feeling blue! I was 278 lb. last year and 263 when I scheduled surgery/248 the day I had surgery so I started out at the same place at a different time. I am down 92 lbs. since April and 77 lb. since surgery so you have lost more than me!!! Since I had lost previously, I am now in an 11-12 so you are going to be here right after me!! Don't be discouraged it hasn't even been a full 7 months since surgery! You are going to do really, really well and make your dreams come true! I know a wonderful woman on the MN site who started out at 425 lb. and she is now at 297!! She is so happy she could burst! It is all relative you know. Try shopping and see how cute you look in those size 14's. Even if you don't buy, it can't help but make you smile. Plus you are much younger and much cuter than me so there you go, tee hee. Go ahead and feel rotten for a while and then go out there and do something that will make you feel wonderful. Hugs!!!! Jo

i started at 379, and i've lost 131 pounds which leaves me at 248... and still obese. sometimes that's hard to deal with, mentally. i found that going to the gym has really helped with my body image. i can see the improvements in how long, how fast, how intense or how much weight i can handle. i'm still fat, but i sure look and feel better than i did at 379 pounds. and, sometimes i look in the mirror and say "damn, i look GOOD" and other times i look in the mirror and see nothing but sagging skin and fat rolls. Holly

GRIL, you just hit the nail dead on the head !!!!!!!!!!!!!! I started out at 271 at 5'8 and im down to 185ish i was a size 20 now a size 12 -14!Im stalled and have been for WEEKS! Im doing everything right! MY friends that had surgery after me are leaving me behind! I also feel like everybody is watching me and wondering why am i still fat and not a size 6 or lower ! GRRR Its very frustrating trying to live up to other peoples expectaions! i definatly relate to what you are going through , i cry everyday about the samething! dawn

rachel- even though i started out "smaller" (at 221 day of surgery), i had to add in that i can totally relate. even though i am now down to 134, i still look in the mirror and don't like what i see. people compliment me DAILY, and i still don't believe them. i still don't see what they see. i am very thankful for this surgery and the 87 lbs i have lost. but i feel like i will always be able to find something wrong with me. the idea of never being happy with ME is not a good feeling, and one that i hope we can all overcome. rachel, you look beautiful!

Hi Rachel! I started out at 267 and had surgery on June 21st. I have only lost 75 pounds and am fitting into 16's. I think you are doing fabulous. I seem to lose a couple pounds and then stall for a couple weeks and then start up again. In my opinion - you are doing a great job!

Rachel, Hun I started at 285 and had my surgery on June 6th, I am down 101 lbs and I sure do not feel that I had lost ONE HUNDRED POUNDS! That number used to be SOOOO BIGGGG to me but now that I lost it, it sure feels like I am still so huge, I am still Obese and will be looking forward to just being overweight but I can not image when I will start to feel like I lost the 100 lbs. I went from a 26-28/30-32 to L-XL/14-16. You are doing awesome.... Getting into a 14 is great. CONGRATS The stalls are very hard to deal with and some people just do not understand that it will not just FALL off overnight, this is only a tool and has to be worked, our bodies are fighting us EVERY step of the way. Hang in there hun, you are doing awesome!!!!!... Debra P

Number one reason I didn't tell anybody about my surgery. I weight 154 and people think I only lost a few pounds... I was over 228 when I started... I think my top weight was 232... but day of surgery was 228. It took 3 full months for someone to notice I had lost weight... I had lost 35 pounds and no one even noticed!!!! Yep, and I bet everyone watches every little thing you eat,too... I remember my reaction the first time I heard someone had cheesecake after WLS... (this was before I had the surgery)... I remember thinking.. what idiot was eat cheesecake after WLS??? don't they know how bad that is??? HA... ya know what I crave???? CHEESECAKE!!! As I type this little note, I realize I am snacking on califlower... reason? Cuz I think I'm hungry but not sure... want a cheesecake but sticking that califlower in my mouth because the calories are less... An no, not a simple bite of cheesecake will solve this... I'd eat the whole slice. And ya know... I don't think it is my stomach that is that much enlarged... I think it is the stoma (the food pipe that leads food into the stomach as well as theone leading out of the stomach.) If I could keep those tiny, I think I would be fine....It is having that small stoma that helped in the beginning... Even whenI was hungry, if I ate too much, too quickly... foamies! I miss foamies,,, jeepers never thought I would hear myself say that!