2 Weeks To Go & Scared to Death!

2 weeks to go until my surgery and I am getting nervous. I'm anxious, yes. but I'm getting scared and overly nervous now. I have not gone to a support group meeting yet, because I didn't know if I was approved or not until AFTER the meeting. Another one is coming up and I will be attending.... I'll also probably be crying the whole way through. I guess it's normal to go through this, though. How is anyone else, that is due for surgery, holding it together? or how has anyone held it together in the past? Please before I begin to Thanks!

Barbara--- Do not feel bad becasue i have until the end of june and I am beginning to get alittle scared, but i went shopping yesterday and i am very upset about the size that i had to buy. 22/24 to a 26/28-30/32. I am very disgusted with myself and i am more than determined to have this surgery now. I know how you feel and as i get closer i will know exactly how you feel. but stay postive and know that you are not alone and it is completely normal to feel this way. by the way.....CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! It is a big step and you will be fine and do great! stacey

Thank you Stacey and congratulations and best of luck to you! I know what you mean by going to the store, looking for something that actually looks good, only to find out it isn't in your size really SUCKS! BUT, it will soon be a memory!!!!

Hi guys i had surgery back in october and thought i would pop in and see what questions people were asking that were close to going for surgery. I am a mother of three young kids and let me tell you it is perfectly natural to be scared. I too was scared i was worried about leaving my children behind and yes it will be one of the hardest things you do the day of surgery is kissing em goodbye. There is no two ways about it it is hard and yes it will tear you in two. I dont beleive there is a way to get that thought of what if this is the last time i see em out of your mind. That being said i found that getting my house in order helped. I made sure that if somehting happened that the kids knew i loved them and they would be alright fiancially. I also did the life insurance thang. I didnt et them know about that of course but it gave me peace of mind knowing that in the event something happened they would be provided for and they would know i loved em. I also asked people in my family if somehting happened that they would look out for them. I also found great peace a couple of nights before surgery when saying my prayers. Im not an overly relegious person but i basically went to bed closed my eyes and had a good chinwag witht he man upstairs. I let him know that i was having a hard time and was scared and that i really wanted this and that i really needed to be there for my children to watch em grow up and i asked him to help make that happen and keep me safe so i could in turn keep my children safe. The next day i felt alot better. I knew i had done everything that i needed to do and that it was now out of my hands sounds kinda really simply i know but it really was that simple. I had done all i could and the rest was up to the man upstairs. The day of surgery after saying goodbye to my kids the night before i kissed my hubby goodbye i was scared yes i cried yes BUT i didnt feel as scared as i was before. I smiled and talked witht he annestiologiest and told him ok im ready lets get this show on the road and with a tear in my eye i said jus****ch over me cause i need to get back to my kids..he said no worries ill do that and you have a nice dream....then the next thign i remember is waking up and thanking God i did just that woke up. That was almost 8 months ago now. I am doing great i am almost at goal from a 24 26 to a 12 I am almost 6 feet tall so 12 for me a good size. I am happy i had this done it has givin me my life back. Are there times i regret it NO are there some tough time YES BUT i would do it again and without hesitation. The lil bumps such as feeling yuckie after eating what i shouldnt have in the first place are nothing compared to what i went through before. There is a world of difference in me from before and now both on the outside and the inside. So my word of advice get your house in order and take a deep breath have a chat witht he man upstairs and start living again kindest regards deborah gale nova scotia canada

I thought that was the best way of putting it. It brought tears to my eyes. I am waiting on approval, but I have been thinking about the very same thing. That just helped me out, dealing with that issue..thanks

Thanks Deb. And congratulations! I can hardly wait to be a "loser", in the best way possible, that is!!

Hi...and yes...I am scared to death too! I hope it is normal for everyone to feel this way. I sometimes think to myself "Can I really do this?" I am scheduled for June 22nd and is is time to or get off the pot, as they say! I then think...GO FOR IT and in no time you'll be !!!!! Good luck on your surgery...you (and I) will be fine! Geri

6/7/05 is the date of my surgery date too. If I think about it too much I get nervous, but if I keep my mind busy, and focus on the the light at the end of the tunnel (or sould I say the smaller jeans at the end of the tunnel) then I'm just excited. I've never had surgery before, nor have I stayed overnight in the hospital, so that is where most of my anxiety comes from.

Hello Barbara, I am not going to make like of your fear, it is real. I don't know what I could say to comfort you other than, continue to pray and trust the good Lord. My surgery is June 1st and I'm bouncing off the walls. My office has been so supportive and I have friends and family coming in from all over. They expect me to be scared but you know what, I not, not at all. I can't wait to have the surgery. This is the best thing I could do right. I want to see my Grandson and Grandaughter grow up and get married. I would love get out and walk without panting all over the place. I would love to be able to walk up the stairs without feeling like I'm going to pass out. You see, if I don't have this surgery, what kinda life expectency do I have? So don't worry, I will pray for you that all goes well and you are up and about before anyone knows it.

i am so sorry you are feeling this way, wish i could say something to calm your fears, but i know i can't. i am scheduled for june 1st and i have not had any feelings like this. not sure why, or maybe i still will, but i am just not afraid. i am not overly religious either, but i have put my faith in God and feel that if june 1st is the day He has chosen for me, it is going to happen regardless of what i do or don't do. and my day could be ANY day, so i would have to live my life everyday in fear. i just don't want to do that. i also have 3 young children and i am a single mom, so its not that i don't have anything to lose. life after this surgery is going to be so much better for me and my kids. try to put faith in God and your surgeon and try to be optimistic! best of luck to you hun!