Feeling a little low.................

Hello all, I went to my plastic surgeon consult for my breast and tummy about a month ago. The visit over all went well. My doctor sent the request to my insurance carrier and they only approved my breast reduction. They said that I did not have enough loose skin on my belly and that in order to be approved, my tummy had to hang past my vaginal area(no appeal). The sugery will cost roughly $6,000 for my tummy. I dont have that type of money and no clue where to get it. I'm a single mom and putting my son through private school(the schools here are terrible). I know this surgery was not in vain... but, things are seeming grim to me. I'm trying to recover credit wise and this is just icing on the cake. I feel so lost, and like I have reached a dead end........................ I'm at a point of not knowing what to do. I have always been the encourager but now, I need a little myself. So Lost, Renee'

You are to be congratulated for putting your son's needs first! The schools were not so good here either and we did the same thing! You have made a huge step in having the surgery and keeping up with the weight loss. Keep fighting the the additional surgery. Some jobs allow you to deduct through a medical savings account so, at least, the surgery would be pre tax. Good Luck. Steve K 360/202 June 2005 Berkeley, Ca

Thanks so much, I know that it will get better. We are all winners. Blessings, Renee'

Hi Renee' I know how you feel - you lost the weight now you want to finish the job. I was very fortunate in that my mother put her house in my name and allowed me to take out an equity loan. Of course, now I struggle with 2 jobs to pay for the loan - but I don't care. I also need about $5k more to get the 2nd round done and now my surgeon said I might need a 3rd (small) surgery because of the amount of bleeding I did - really slows them down. I'm also a single mom and my son also goes to private school. I feel it was meant for me tohave the PS because I got 100% tuition assistance this year. That was amazing considering I didn't get anything last year. Hang in there hun - where there's a will there's a way!!! Try taking out a personal ad for a sugar daddy. I'm getting close to trying that myself. Sharyn

Renee', You can appeal the decision. Do you have any back pain or rashes from the skin? I am appealing my tt right now with my ins comp. It is frustrating, but I am fighting it! I feel your pain as I want my breasts and arms and thighs done, but can't afford it. But I have decided that I have years ahead of me and if it takes time, it will come. Your son won't be in school forever. Also there are loans and other options out there even if it is later on. We don't have to be perfect all at once! I do understand how you are feeling though. Everyday I look at myself in the mirror, I get upset with myself. Why do I beat myself up? I don't know, but it is part of the journey. Keep you head up and thank God for spandex! LOL!! Wendy

Hugs Renee'~ sorry to hear about your ps process. I don't have any wonderful words of wisdom for you, but wanted you to know that I was thinking of you. Just remember, we have come so far. Don't let some saggy skin get ya down. You are so much healthier than before! Keep plugging away...you never know what doors God might open for you! Blessings, Kerri

renee........ ((((((((((TIGHT HUGS)))))))))))))))))

Just a suggestion.... I am somewhat in the same boat as you except I have 2 children. I started taking an extra $50 a payday out for taxes and then when I file my taxes this year, that is what I will use to have my PS done. Maybe you could try something like that. Hugs, Shelley