Questions for all!!!!

Eating again isn't agreeing with my weight loss... Ok, eating like a PIGGY isn't agreeing with my weight loss. I was terrible all weekend long I ate way way way too much everyday, but here we go again with a new week and trying hard... again! Ok, can't really complain though, my original goal weight was 160lbs, today I was 162. NOT SO BAD!!!!! Even if I stop here or gain another 3lbs I am still at a good weight for my frame and I am super close to goal! Once I get my mind & body in gear and really start working out (we hope this happens sooner than later, but knowing me... doubtful) then everything will fall into place, I hope. I am so enjoying life at this point, but I have one question... When do I stopped thinking of myself as the FAT girl? Ilyssa

Holy cow girl! You are soooo not fat! But let me tell you, I have been told by 4000 people that I am not really fat anymore and I don't believe a one of them!!! I think we will always be fat in our head. In a way it is good, because we will remember where we came from and we will not be arrogant or snotty to other people. But we also need to be realistic and not too hard on ourselves. It takes time and for me I think ps will help my self esteem. I don't know where you are with the whole skin issue, but the saggy baggies do not help your self image. Look in the mirror and take inventory, and see what you like and don't like. Be realistic and try to see from another perspective. Pictures help alot too. Compare your old ones to new ones, this always makes me see the difference even if it doesn't stick for long. But it does give you and idea of the change others are seeing. PS- I think you are beautiful, and you are a great person. Wendy

Thanks Wendy for voicing your opinion here! I really do appreciate it! I am feeling fairly confident in the fact that physically I am not totally a fat person anymore, but in my head I still think of myself about 75% of the time as a fat girl. I am just curious if we ever get over this???? I do have the saggy baggy skin and unfortunately b/c of my current medical issues, I now have to wait till next year or the end of this year to get them fixed!! GRRR. But my health is more important than anything else! Thanks Wendy, this is such an interesting topic to me and I can't wait to hear other peoples thoughts as well! Ilyssa

I weigh anywhere between 131 and 137 depending on the time of day and month. I stand 5 feet 4 inches. Supposedly we should weigh 100 pounds for the first five feet and five pounds for every additional inch. That puts my goal weight at 120 pounds. I think I would look VERY skinny and scrawny at that size. However, I am still fat in my stomach. I am still an apple shape and will have a funny looking wide rear with no bounce in the seat. I have a white/caucasian rear that nobody really likes. So yes, I'm still fat. I'm not obese by any means, but I see myself for what I am. For me? Working out has never been helpful to lose weight. Not eating large portions has helped. My portions are larger now, and that makes me angry, scared, lonely, afraid, etc. Soooo I'll exercise to keep my bones and body healthy. I want to be limber and full of muscle for my frame when I am 60... I'm only 40 now, but 20 years of regular exercise and hopefully I'll be able to raise some future grandchildren on my knees and not give out early.

From the way it sounds, your doing great! 131 - 137 at 5' 4" is great! Don't listen to what "they" say we should weigh! Your doing wonderful and you have come a long way! Keep yo your spirits and you will do great! Ilyssa

I'm at a different place than you. I get comments about how "skinny" I am now all the time. However, I still weigh 183 pounds which is FAR from skinny - obese actually. I'm 5'5" and still in a size 16 pant and L/XL shirt. It messes with my head actually. Sometimes I find myself thinking that I'm not that overweight anymore and then I see someone else that wears a size 16 too and they are overweight and complaining about it. Saying how miserable they are. I just don't know where I am actually. I don't have any perspective anymore. Sometimes I wish people would lay off the compliments - never thought I would say that. Since I teach school I'm constantly getting them. I need to stay focused and not get a false sense of what I look like. Does that even make sense??? Dawn

Yes, it all makes sense to me! But honestly, you are looking great and we have all accomplished a lot so you shouldn't have a false sense of what you look like, b/c you do look great! Just stay focused and you will be fine! Keep up the good work! Ilyssa

Hmmm, good question. Most would say I already don't think like a "fat girl", but I think no matter what, people still view me as fat. Ofcourse, I am still over 100 lbs over weight, so....

That is great, I need to get passed that mind set!!! Keep up the good work though Kelli, your doing AMAZING! Ilyssa

Awww, thanks!