Why do so many after surgery break up with there spouse?

Why do we have problems with our relationships after surgery ? I'm 1 year out and been with my kids dad for 12 1/2 years and all we do is argue now he always wants to break up with me ! Before all I did was stay home and be depressed now I love my life and want to enjoy it and go out more ! Why can't they be supportive and understand us instead of argue all the time it gets old !!!

I'm sorry you're going through this... I read about how common this actually is... as you regain your self esteem and self confidence, your partner feels threatened and insecure. Makes no sense to me Maybe you guys could try counseling?

Sorry for your trouble Celena. I think if there were problems in the marriage before surgery they are brought to the surface as we learn to deal with issues instead of Stuffing them away with food. Talking with a therapist or someone from your church sounds like a great idea. I honestly don't think "the weight loss" is the problem, facing our problems is a side effect of our new tool, we just have to embrace that part and work on the "real" problems we have been having all along. Just my oppinion Patti, in Montague