Nervous preop...

Hi, hope you don't mind me jumping on your board for a minute My surgery(Lap RNY) is Sept 7th, I like to read on the surgery date boards to see what I can look forward to in a few months and you all are such an amazing inspiration you just have no idea. Anyway I was wondering for those of you with small children were you just terrified before your surgery. I am soo scared I don't know what my daughter would do without me, she is three and a total momma's girl. I am going to have my surgery, don't want to back out just wish I could get over this fear. Any advice? Thanks in advance, Melissa

Put your faith and God and your surgery team and think positive thoughts. Just think how much more fun it will be to play with your little one after your surgery and you have more stamina and agility. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it. My prayers will be with you on Sept 7. Nancy

I can understand your nervousness. I was afraid also but knew that it was my only option in order to save my life. If you think about how much better your life will be with your daughter after your surgery that should help. think how proud she will be of the courageous thing her mother is doing. You are doing this for the both of you. My thoughts will be with you. Let me know how you do.

I was completely the same as you were prior to my surgery. The nite before surgery i laid in bed and talked myself in and out of surgery a million times. I wanted the surgery bad to enhance the quality of life i have with my two daughters age 1 and 6, and i wanted to do more with them and be healthier to live long enought o see their hopes and dreams come true, yet at the same time how could i do this surgery and possibly take away myself totally. i jsut decided that i would finally be ok and eventually the morning came and i went thru with it. that was 3 months ago and let me tell you, wow what a journey. icant believe the energy inmy day to chase these two and go up and down stairs and not send my 6year old on all my errands around the house anymore. i love it, and my 1 year old is loving the walks outside in the stroller, and the playtime out back, life after surgery is more than i thought so if this helps ya get over the anxiety a little i hope it helps, but just let yourself know you are doing a good thing. good luck feel free toemail me if you would like to. jamie [email protected]

Hi Melissa, I got a lot of grief from my extended family about my decision to have WLS. Mostly because I have two young children at home, one of whom happens to have mild autism. I worried incessantly that I would be one of the rare cases of major complications or death. I was petrified right up until the surgery date, to be honest. I had to weigh the pros and cons of my situation. Truth being, I wasn't being much of a mom to the kids. I was unable to participate in a lot of activities with them due to my size and poor health. I had to sit out on field trips and family outings because I was incapable of doing much walking, bending, stooping. I was worn out and exhausted all of the time, and DEPRESSED to boot. I was a miserable sad person before WLS and now that I'm on the other side of the surgery, I can't begin to tell you how my outlook has changed. I am happy, I feel wonderful, I am able to participate in LIFE. I should have done this years ago! Good luck! -BJ

Thank you so much everyone *****plied, that is really all I needed to hear. I know this is the right thing to do, I want to be able to sit on the floor and play with my daughter. Chase her down the street on her new Barbie motorcycle I got her for her 3rd birthday, and just so many things I cannot do at my size. I want to have another baby too in a few years and that is just not possible at 300+lbs I would be soo miserable. Well just a few more days and it will be my turn. Melissa

I was soooooo scared! I have three kids and a husband. I ended up writing letters to each of them and putting them somewhere they would be able to find them if something happened to me. I went ahead and visited the memorial page and then after my morbid period, I concentrated on the future. I pictured me holding my grandchildren because I would be healthy enough to live long enough to see them, I concentrated on being at my daughters' weddings, they are only 10, 14 and 18 so I hope those are a long time away. Most of all, I pictured me having the energy to participate fully in their lives. It just made me feel so much better. I hope this helps. Best of luck, I will be praying for you. Hannah

Hi Melissa, I have 5 kids, one with Autism who finds change tramatic. I was so afraid of leaving them. I wrote all the letters and made out my Will. What Honestly helped me was all the support from ObesityHelp, all the prayers and well wishes from all over the country. It gave me such a feeling of peace. God's Blessings to you and your Doctor Melissa. I'm so happy you are on your way to a better life for you and your family!

Just look at all the people on this sight that have had the surgery and are alive and very happy to talk about it. I know I was very nervous before the surgery as I'm sure everyone is. If there's a support group in your area look at those people too. I cried on and off for days prior to the surgery and my doctor told me the emotional roller coaster was perfectly normal. I had a lap RNY on June 14th, had no problems......I feel great! I was walking on a treadmill 2 days after I got out of the hospital and haven't stopped yet. Lost 55 pounds in 11 weeks, I can eat anything so I eat what I like, but of course I make good choices and eat my protein first. This was the best thing I did for myself!!! And soon you'll be saying the same thing! Good luck and may God guide your surgeon's hands during your procedure. You'll be fine. See you on the losing side! Terry

HI, just wanted to Thank everyone for your encouragement last week!! I was so very nervous I had my LAP Rny on Tuesday AM and came home Thursday PM no problems so far...just feel like I have been hit by a train...but getting a little better each day . Melissa