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talksoupslp
on 11/11/09 1:48 am
Topic: Family Reaction - a HUGE disappointment!
So, this past weekend I had to be in Orlando for my baby cousin's Bat Mitzvah (okay, she's not a baby...but she's my cousin's child).  My family, other than my brother and sis-in-law, had no knowledge of my recent weight loss and no knowledge of my surgery.  I specifically did not "friend" my cousin's husband on Facebook several months ago when he sent a request because I didn't want my family to see pictures.  I wanted to wait for the "grand entrance" this past weekend.  All of my blood related relatives were less than enthusiastic.  I mean, they were happy for me and could see a difference (it's been 4 1/2 years since I've seen most of them), but "eh". 

My father (who I do not have a relationship with) is my brother's real estate agent.  If mom and I wanted to see the house he and his wife are in the process of buying, the real estate agent had to let us in.  So, I got to see "dear ole dad".  He noticed and told me how great I looked.  Okay, so he's the 1 blood relative who was "excited". 

My mom's friend, of 35 years, and who knows I had surgery and has seen the pics, was just "ga-ga" over me.  Couldn't get over how great I looked.  And the pics don't tell the whole story.

My aunt's friends, of 50 years, told me how great I looked...and the husband had one simple word for me... "HOT"

My cousin's in-laws (so I guess they are my in-laws by proxy) noticed immediately and told me how great I looked.

My cousin's husband redeemed himself by coming up to me Saturday am and saying he was so busy Friday night, he forgot to say something, but I looked fabulous!

Assorted friends of my aunt and mom all were very excited about how I looked.

My aunt was excited, but not as excited as I thought she would be and it was almost a phoney excitement.

I get better responses at work, on a daily basis, from strangers than I did my family.

This got me to thinking...the people who were really NOT excited for me were my brother, sister-in-law, and my cousin.  During the weekend, I found all 174 pounds I've lost...my brother, sister-in-law, and cousin apparently found them!  All 3 of these people are at the heaviest weights I've ever seen them at.  Maybe this is why they weren't overly excited?  Maybe they are jealous?

Whatever the reason, you can't pick your family.  I look fantastic and I know it, and even flaunt it.  I seem to be having no body concept issues whatsoever.  While I didn't need them to tell me how fantastic I look, it would have been nice.  It's been a long road (I've been significantly overweight all my life) and it's taken a lot of hard work to get to where I am.  I have less than 90 pounds to get to what I think will be my goal weight.  I've never only been 90 pounds from a weight goal.  So, I would have appreciated their excitement and enthusiasm.  Oh well! 

-L


Highest Weight/Surgery Weight/Current Weight/Goal
426.4/356/216.8/165?
EOD WIFE
on 11/10/09 6:20 am - Lawton Ft Sill, OK
Topic: What has changes the most in your life?
Hello May'ers
I wanted to pose a question now that we are about 6 months out.

What has changed the most in your life?



For me, I think the thing that has changed the most is Attitude! 
I don't feel sick and tired all the time now and I am taking care of ME for the first time in my whole life. I can see a whole new life and future coming into view. Don't get me wrong I had/have a wonderful life, but now I can do more things that I had not even considered before.
Before WLS I would of NEVER walked into a gym and climbed up on the equipment. Now I am just like all the other people there. I don't feel like the fattest person in the room anymore (hey I might be, but I don't feel like I am!)
I am very thankful for the 2nd chance at life I have now. I know that it will just keep getting better and better.


So what has changes for you since WLS?

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EOD WIFE
on 11/10/09 6:10 am - Lawton Ft Sill, OK
Topic: RE: Gosh, I just found this forum!
SOunds like your doing well to me.
It is a journey not a trip, so remember it takes time and work to get to the goal!

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pitablond
on 11/9/09 8:49 pm - Harrisburg, PA
Topic: RE: 5 months out...how is everyone?!
Oh my goodness!  You are doing fantastic.  It's great to see how well everyone is doing!

~*Ashley*~ Highest weight: 330ish   Current weight: 198
                                     

  

jpas_mom
on 11/9/09 8:07 pm - Malvern, PA
Topic: RE: Stoped losing weight And still have over 80 pounds to go

Hi there,

Are you getting out to move more? Sometimes our bodies need that extra "push" to continue losing weight. You might also want to switch up your routine while working out, and switch up what you are eating. Our bodies have a tendancy to get accustomed to what we are eating too, so you may was to try "tricking" your body varying the amount of calories you consume one day to the next.

Just hang in there. Don't give up, you should be excited for how far you've come, not how much you have still to go!

Dawn

HW320/SW257/CW171/GW127
63 lbs lost PRE-OP!

    
timeisticking
on 11/9/09 5:33 am
Topic: RE: Gosh, I just found this forum!
I think you are doing great!!! Everyone is different. As of today I have lost 90lbs and feel greattttttttttttttt!!!!!!

AS long as your are feeling better, and from your pic you are look good!!! Keep up the good work
jpas_mom
on 11/9/09 5:17 am - Malvern, PA
Topic: RE: 5 months out...how is everyone?!
Hey all-
I just passed the 5 month out mark on 10/26. Since the surgery I've lost 63lbs. All together I've lost 126 lbs (had a lot to lose before surgery). My weight loss has been slowed recently, but I've also stopped going to the gym as often as I used to. So I'm trying to get back in (starting tonight!!)
So far I'm thrilled w/ my weight loss. The day before my 5 month anniversary I attended a friend's wedding. I was wearing a size 12 dress! I haven't been that size since high school! I'm also off all high blood pressure meds. What a great feeling!
I still experience the "highs" and "lows" of weight loss like I used to (sometimes snack too much, eating too fast, etc.) but overall, I've never felt as confident about who I am and what I've accomplished. I almost can't believe that last year on Thanksgiving I weighed 320 lbs (my heaviest) and now I'm below 200!!
We're so hard on ourselves about losing the weight within a certain timeframe, but I really feel that we should focus on where we've come from, doing the right thing EVERYDAY, and the rest will fall into place. Best of luck as you all continue your journey to better health!
HW320/SW257/CW171/GW127
63 lbs lost PRE-OP!

    
saraat76
on 11/9/09 5:02 am
Topic: RE: Gosh, I just found this forum!
You're doing fine I had mine May 15th started at 250 and today i'm at 175 had a couple stalls but i guess it's normal  I don' worry about it i figure i've lost more weight that i could have on my own so i'm very happy with the results so far.
Jennifer M.
on 11/9/09 1:39 am - NY
Topic: RE: 5 months out...how is everyone?!
Hi everyone!! I will be 6 months out on 11/20/09. I have lost a total of about 85lbs with 26lbs to go until I reach goal. I am now in a size 10 pants and I can fit into a size 8, but they are still a little snug. I started out in a 22/24. At being only 5ft tall (exactly 5ft), 220lbs is a real lot. My BMI was 44. Now I am a 26. I am just considered overweight. YAYYY!!!!! But in the last couple of weeks, I have not lost anything. But I don't think I am getting in enough water or protein. I am trying, but I cant do shakes. Tried them with water and milk..they still make me sick (the shakes). I just bought a 64oz water bottle that I am going to start carrying around with me. I love it. It even has an ice thingy in it.

I am kinda scared though..I have in some aspects gone back to the old me. This is one thing I am going to see a NUT about and seek counseling as of next week (this is my 1st appt with a new counselor..dunno if he has experience with WLS or not..but we shall see how it goes!). Sugar does NOT make me dump..In fact, the only thing it does is give me a severe headache. I can eat small candy bars, cookies, etc... and not have any major episodes. I wish I would though, as weird as it sounds.

I am glad that I have been given this new life and body!!!!

Love always, Jennifer

  I declare to you that woman must not depend upon the protection of man, but must be taught to protect herself, and there I take my stand. ~ Susan B. Anthony

  

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Sara C.
on 11/8/09 9:15 pm - Belding, MI
Topic: RE: Stoped losing weight And still have over 80 pounds to go
Wow, I wish I had found this earlier.  I'm right there with you guys. I was feeling so alone, but now I'm not so worried. It will get there.

Thanks for your stories.

The personal life deeply lived always expands into truths beyond itself.
Anais Nin
Surgical weight-289.6/Lowest weight postop-173

    

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