Emotional Mess!!!!

My friend started his vacation today he will be gone when my surgery is done, My surgery is the 19th of this month. He told me today the he will never see me anymore like he sees me today, WOW!!!! what an eyeopening statement,I don't know where the ocean of emotions came from, I feel really weird, I don't know if I am depressed, happy, or exactly what I am right now! Is it possible to mourn your weight loss before it happens?Or am I just afraid of the changes that I know will take place?Is this the first time that it has really hit me that things will never be the same? I WOULD APPRECIATE ANY HELP THAT YOU COULD GIVE ME, TO HELP ME UNDERSTAND THESE FEELINGS.

Donna, I am guessing you have already answered your own question. All of the things you listed are all going on. This is a great time of change with anticipation. You may be mourning the loss of weight to come, but also mourning the things that will not ever be again...I have surgery on Monday and I have noticed today that I have these little thoughts going through my brain about NOT eating certain things again---seems I have seen the Pizza Hut pasta ads today several times! TOO much fat--dumping problems. Our decision is a life changing major event, we are expected to have lots of emotions--it is normal. Reach out to your support people. You will be okay. Blessings on your journey.

Thanks so much for your response, It helps to know that I am not the only one experiancing all this emotion, Good Luck with you WLS.

A couple things might be going on....you could be mourning your loss early, but especially if you are on any kind of restriction foodwise, you have also lost your coping mechanism. There are two things you must know: It is NORMAL and you won´t drown in your tears. All the things we stuff down DO eventually have to make their way out. I wish you great peace and success on your journey. Think of it as a new adventure! You are in my prayers. Karin

Dear Donna, You may be experiencing the full and complete range of emotions regarding your up coming, life changing event! Excitment, fear, sadness, loss, anger, joy! I just had my surgery (lap band) this past friday and do understand how you feel. My identity has been so connected to food. When I woke up this morning, I felt sadness- It is mothers day- I can speak with my mom and my children. I am sad over the events that historically, for my family, revolved around food. Where will we eat? What time?? It goes on. Mothers day brunch! Well, I did acknowledge this Passage, allowed myself to feel sad, but did try to put things into perspective. I know that now, because of my focus on weight and health, I will not only have at least 40 more mothers days, but I will be able to cross my legs!! Allow yourself to feel the gamut of emotions, acknowledge them and then let them go. Only Great things will happen. I wish you luck! You nare not alone. Barrie

Barrie, thanks so much for your response,it really helps to know that I am not alone, Good luck with your banding, I wish you all the success in the world.