Funny you should say that!!! We went ot the mall food court and while I was getting the stuff the kids wanted I ate the chicken samples from the 4 differnt places and that was dinner!!!! I got me an ice tea when everyone was done eating and it had been my 30 min!!!

T Rob, Thsi is where I call home too! Though I was not posting in hte "leading up to surgery" phase. But I like following where everyone is so that is very nice!!! As for the Holidays.....hmmmm well this year will be different as my mom now lives here so we will be cooking together. I still like to bake so I will jsut bake and take it to work or to the school (the teachers love that i have been doing that ) but for my birthday in Dec we are going to Six Flags and I will be riding rides wih my kids fo hte first time!!!! Donna

WOOT Courtney! Your a rock star!!!!! I'm so proud of you, I can't believe you have made it already. That is an incredible amount of weight to lose in 5 months. I hope your very proud of yourself, I know I'm proud of you!!! Hugs, Rebecca

Ummmm HELL YEAH it was sexual harrassment! I don't know about your state but here in lovely New Jersey ANY unwanted "touching" (back rubs, shoulder rubs, etc.) is considered sexual harrassment. His behavior was HIGHLY inappropriate. I know all about letting it go, but he went beyond a "boss" relationship. My husband and I own our business. We recently had to implement more detailed descriptions of sexual harrassment into our employee manuals. We have one guy here, in his 50s, who is EXTREMELY touchy-feely.....with me! Mark and I sat down and talked about it, both as co-owners of the company THEN as husband/wife. Mark called the company attorney and she informed us it would definitely be considered sexual harrassment. I had to rewrite our policies due to this bonehead. Can you believe when he read the new ones he flipped. LOL We have more females here than males (our guys are out in the field most of the time or work from home) and I sure will NEVER allow our female employees to feel uncomfortable in this environment. It's sad that your ex boss and the HR Coordinator are close. That's never a good thing. From my end as a business owner you DEFINITELY have a claim. That he BEGGED you to stay during that conference shows me that he wanted WAY more than a boss/employee relationship. This guy has no business being a boss. * Cyndi *

Hey all, this is a cross post but I could use some advice. Some people are telling me it is, and some people are telling me to move on and ignore it. I could use my friends' advice. I started a new job in August and was quickly promoted after 2 weeks to upper management. My boss, the administrator of a nursing home, was always very friendly with me and acted like we were buds. I had no issues at first. After a few weeks in my new position, he promised me that after a few years of being his right hand go to person that I would be assistant administrator. I was excited and probably naive as that is my dream job. He would make comments on my weight loss and say I looked good, but so did many other people female and male. A month ago we went to a 3 day conference, a group of 8 of us, and he tried to get me to spend the night with everyone rather than driving home that evening. It was a 2 hour drive and I just wanted to sleep in my own bed, not a hotel, but he begged me to stay, thought it was weird but let it go. I drove home anyway. He would always touch me a lot via back rubs, hugs, and winks. I didn't think much of it until yesterday. It bothered me but again I didn't say anything. I parted ways with my job and he wanted me to promise I would keep in touch and that we would still be friends then said..."ya know I love ya right?" He laughed after he said it and I didn't say anything back to him. I'm confused, I'm married...happily, and I think I was sexually harrassed but I don't know. I never had this happen and I'm not sure I have enough evidence to support a claim. I know I felt very uncomfortable but I didn't really tell him to stop because he was my boss and I didn't want to ruin my career. It did anyway because I am now no longer employed there. I am relieved that it is over but angry because I think I just ruined any chance at having my dream job. I also never told the HR Coordinator because the administrator (my boss) and her are very close, they share everything and I didn't feel it could be held in confidence. I was excited at first to work in an environment that was so "family" orientated but now I realize it was very unhealthy and lacked confidentiality and professionalism. Do I still have a claim even though I didn't speak up? According to several internet websites I do but I'm not sure. Help please?!?! Sitting here unemployed with no job prospects, Jamie