A long overdue update

Mrs. SmartiePants
on 8/29/09 12:49 am
I know I am wayyy late on this but HI. I'm so glad to see that everyone's doing good.

It's been a good journey thus far, never easy though. I've often thought that I went in naive and unprepared, despite the YEARS of research I did.
I gained 20 lbs from about Jan 2008 to Oct 2008. I had to explain to my surgeon why I had gained so much weight so soon after the surgery. It was not easy. I lost a bit of weight this year, then I started seeing a therapist in April. It has truly done wonders. I'm a binge-eater, always have been. The first months following the surgery stopped me from being able to do so but man, once my hunger came back I began eating myself info a food coma, literally. I was in complete denial until the scale read 190 lbs one day. I was devastated and felt like a huge failure.
Therapy has been going really well. It definitely needed it. My binging is much less frequent and I can talk about it with my therapist every time it happens. I've managed to lose 21 lbs so far. I'm down to exactly what I was at my lowest post-op. I'm hoping to lose some more because I never got down to the weight I wanted to. It has helped A LOT. There is no way I could have done this on my own. I finally feel like I'm doing things right.


Chantal

armra1967
on 9/1/09 4:43 pm - Lakewood, NY
Good to "see" you and appreciate the update. Our little group has dwindled to next to no one. Take care of you, April

      
John W.
on 9/8/09 10:29 pm - Near Topeka, KS
Hi Chantal,

So good to see you again. I have also not checked in very many times the last few months. This has bee tougher than I thought as time has passed. I still joke with my wife that I need a Lapband on my RNY. I sure miss those days of feeling full with so little food. I have also found some of my previous weight (about 20 pounds of bounce back) but I's still working at getting that back off. I'm a binge eater too. I seem to start my binges when I get hooked into those nasty carbs. If I just stay focused on high protein and good veggies, I do just great and the scale starts to move backwards again. I want to drop those extra pounds before Thanksgiving (USA version) and then maintain this year through the month of December.

Glad to see that you are doing well. My wife, Christine, has done very well and is still about 15 pounds from where she wants to go. She still looks great to me, but I'll be happy wherever she ends up.

John

Start Wt: 347 --  Lowest: 191 --  Current: 216.2  --  Goal: 197

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Donna W.
on 9/14/09 1:34 pm - Spring, TX
Ok, so I have avoided checking in because......that is EXACTLY what has happened to me!!!!!!!!!   And since I still talk to pre-ops at my surgeons seminars it has been tough for me.....I feel like a hipocrit really.  I am a binge eater for sure and it is awful.  And because of it am experiencing reactive hypoglycemia.  I have a friend who had surgery a year after me (lapband) that has long surpased me.  I held my weight loss for over a year but from May until now I am now up 15 pounds (was 20 but I lost 5) and this is something my surgeon doesn't know (well now he might as I think the office follows my posts LOL).  I got in a bad hapbit of not anything ANYTHING I should.  And then started feeling horrible which added to the binges.  But I am BACK TO THE BASICS and back on track and determined to make this work!!!!!  I need to look inot therapy myself and see if that helps.  There is a person I know from support group that says it has truely made a difference for her!

Good to see you post!!!

Donna

lv2beasahm
on 9/20/09 10:02 pm - Pennsville, NJ
Well, I'm glad to see I'm not the only one *****turned to some bad habits.  I'm still less than my surgeon's goal but I feel like a big, fat pig some days.  I'd like to lose 15 lbs to get back to my lowest.  There's no way I'm buying clothes in a bigger size.  It's the principle of it now.  lol  I'm still in size 4 but size 6 fits better. lol

Life has been a roller coaster of sorts.  As my May 2007 family knows, my husband has been less than supportive of the new me.  The word "repulsive" was tossed out more than once.  I joined an "adult" chat site though my end of it is more "chat" than "adult".  If anyone wants more info, private message me.  I've actually met 10 people who had RNY so we talk about post-op life a lot.  My husband also joined this virtual world and has become horribly addicted to it.  So addicted that he'd come to bed at 5:50 am knowing I wake up by alarm at 6.  Well, hugely long story short, I was in a "club" in this virtual world and the live DJ played a song by Tesla.  You 80s babies will remember Tesla.  Anyway, their new song is called "Breakin' Free".  Read the lyrics.  That night I got the kick in the skinny ass I needed.  On September 11 I filed for divorce.  This virtual, yet very live DJ plays this song for me at every show.  It gave me the strength because that song is 100% about my life.

I'm not sure what the future will bring but it has to bring better things for me and my daughter.  She's fine with the divorce.  Some events happened that have made her HATE him with every fiber of her being and I find that sad.  So, I'm not only doing this divorce for me, but to show her that no woman, or person for that matter, deserves to be treated badly.

Sorry to make this post so long but I wanted to let you all know what's going on.  I wish all of you all the best!  I see Esther on Facebook all the time. :D  If you're there, let me know!  I'm listed as Cyndi Young-Brown on Facebook.

Hugs and love to you all!

Cyndi
* Cyndi *



Donna W.
on 9/23/09 11:18 am - Spring, TX
Cyndi,

So sorry to hear!  But sounds like it is best.  I am sending you a message

Donna
(deactivated member)
on 11/10/09 4:00 am - Basom, NY
I also have been gone way too long, and I have gained 20 lbs back.  I am also a binge eater.

It's refreshing to know we have each other for support.

Hope to post more later!

Betsy
cschoen
on 11/16/09 9:18 am - NJ
Chantal, you did a good thing - you made us all comoe out and be honest, and, at the same time realize that we are not alone in this.  I've gained about 10 lbs. back and, while very upset in the beginning. realized that I just simply have to do the best I can to get back to where I was - or close.  The improtant thing is we RECOGNIZE what we are doing and STOP before it's too late and DON'T give up the good habits we know are ingrained in us.

Whew, am I glad I checked this board tonight!!!!!!!!!!!!

Cyndi, Leader, OH Groups,
Northern NJ Stalwarts
and (the slow-growing) Keeping It Kosher After WLS

"I want my unwarranted optimism back!" Dilbert

K-in-PA
on 11/18/09 6:29 am - PA
Hi Chantal,
I just stopped by this site tonight and saw your post.  I want to congratulate you on taking charge of your situation.  This journey certainly isn't an easy one.  You have MUCH to be proud of!!!  

K  



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