I need help!

Well first off I hope eveyone had a good thanksgiving! The sad news is my grandma passed away last night, so my problem is I will be around food for the next 3 days and I am very nervous. This is the first time since surgery I will be out of my element so to speak and be around everything we are not supposed to eat. I know in my heart I will be strong and not want to eat or binge but at the same time I am stressed and could eat everything right now. So I just look to my friends here at OH to help me through this tough time. I thsnk everyone in advance for the help and support. Amy

Amy. I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a grandma is terrible. Mine will be gone 12 years Christmas morning. I'm a mess already. Try to stear clear from the food. Take this time to talk with family members. Or, if you really need to eat, put some things on a plate and just eat off that one plate. I know you'll be fine. You've got 6 months post-op behind you. Your good decisions will come automatically. You're in my thoughts. * Cyndi *

One of the things that worked well for me was to always keep a drink in my hand. I was able to explain my not eating as one of the rules that you can not eat and drink at the same time. It worked for me. My thoughts are with you in your time of sorrow!! Stay strong, and know that your grandmother would want you to be healthy so do it for her. Gayle

Amy, Sorry for your loss.....good suggestion already to have a drink in your hand at all times. Also pack you a small ice chest that has what you can have it in. Protien drinks etc. That is what helped me though what also helped is I was just four weeks post op. Try to make smartest choices you can out of what is available eating protein first will help as you will be full by the time you get to something you should not have. But by packing your own snacks you might avoid that all together. Remember to sip water constantly and that will help as well. I known this is not an easy time, but I found it was much easier than I thought. And having more time to visit with family instead of worrying about eating was nice. Also I make it my mission to make sure everyone else had food and drink....kept me too busy to eat myself! Donna

I know you're going through hard times right now, but try to remember the good times with your grandma. And while your having thoose thoughts of the past, keep in mind that your grandma would not want to see you slide on your new life, and will want to see you keep getting healthier. Sorry for you loss, and hang in there, you can do it!!! John

I just wanted to say thanks you to everyone so far that has posted. There are some good adv**** here. I appreciate everyone here and what they have to say and support. Hugs and kisses. Amy

Amy, Sorry to hear about your grandma but I am sure she is at peace and can now watch over you. It's hard not to eat during the stressful times but we are all here for you and just know that you are loved. Hugs, Esther