Kinda strange... but here it goes!

My husband works at a very small company. Most of the guys there are very nice, BUT, they are big time gossipers...lol. I had my RNY on May 29th 2007 and my husban took off the day of my surgery and the day after. He told all of the guys that I was having a hiatal hernia repair. ( which I did so it wasnt a lie, he just never mentioned the RNY...lol) Anyway, my husbands boss says to him the other day " so how is Tina feeling? I hear she lost 35 pounds from the gastric bypass surgery". My husband was SHOCKED! He replied " What? she had hiatal hernia repair, his boss replied oh yeah thats right. My husband later over heard them talking about the OH website and how I was on there. So anyway... does anyone know how to change my name on this website so they can no longer log on to see my weight, my photos and all of the other personal stuff that they have no business looking at? I am sorry about the nature of this message. It is just that I feel nervous about revealing things such as my weight, and information about myself when these immature computer geeks are probably looking at my profile everyday. They are the young kids at the company so I can expect them to be immature, but it is still wrong. Hugz Tina

Tina, I am so sorry this happened to you. What an invasion of privacy. I can understand some young, immature employees making a comment, but your husband's BOSS! How rude. I hope someone can help you change your info. Best wishes, Susan

And they talk about women!!!! What a bunch of jerks! I don't know how you change all that stuff but maybe you want to do a whole new profile. It sucks but I can totally understand your wanting to keep your privacy. What did your husband say??? Obviously *someone* there has REALLY big ears. What a complete invasion of privacy!!!! * Cyndi *

I wonder if changing you username would work since your profile is link to your user name? Donna

I would try this also, especially since on the monthly boards, your last name shows up! That is quite the invasion on privacy...but it's the internet, not much we can do about it

Men gossiping...imagine that...LOL I am sorry to hear that you & your hubbie have been the focus of their gossip lately. How rude of hubbie's boss, not to say crossing the line a bit. I know this is the Internet, but one of hubbie's co-workers had to have known something to even do a search on you. I mean like your screen name, or rumor of you having WLS and then searching. Why were they here at OH to begin with? I'd try following the last 2 posters responses suggesting you change ID's, but for some reason, I doubt that will do it. Have you emailed OH's staff to inquire? My place of employment has a gossip policy & there are consequences for such. Hubbie could check with his HR Dept. (human resources) to check into similar. Good luck to you!

What a bunch of losers.....I thought men had more class then that and I hope they are reading this because they must not have a life if they have nothing better to do then go on this website to nose around. Just chalk it up to ignorance! Keep up the good work and innore these jackasses. Hugs, Esther

Tina-- I searched OH and the only thing I found is if you go to My Account at the top right of your screen...and then click on General Information on the left middle of your screen---it asks you if you want your profile private or not. If you select to make it private---NOBODY can see it but you...so that kind of sucks! However, it might solve your problem for a while. Otherwise, I don't know how to help you! =( Good luck..........and try to brush them off. They're just immature and ignorant!! Courtney

Obviously your missing the obvious thing. Someone who works with your husband apparently has had this proceedure done. Why else would they know of this board. I found this board by accident. I don't think men just look up weight loss boards, so is someone else covering up a little secret down to the job! Actually I never volunteered my weight or got in the conversations much when coworkers or skinny family talked. Now I am so proud of what I have done and how I am losing though its not fast becuase I was all ready working out and changing my eating habits months before surgery, that I don't care what people think or even telling them what I lost. As a matter of fact sinse I try not to weigh much since I don't drop real fast like some I am not ashamed to tell them I start off this whole proceedure in a confernce with other people and my start weight was 284 in Novemember. June 6 at surgery I was at 251 and now I am around 215 but I don't know for sure because I don't weigh all the time. I am proud of my decision and my ability to realize I was out of control weight wise and my health was important enough to me take control. I am not embarassed to say the least. I hope it gives people courage to take control of there lives and not be ashamed of the issues in there lives. We all have them. Be proud!!