worried the surgery is not gonna work.........

Hey everyone......hows it going???? I Have STALLED in my weight loss.... I am geting woried that this is going to be another failure.....am I doomed to be fat forever???? I am trying to stay positive but it is getting hard when I see my ankles swelling up again and the scale not moving..... I am not able to do all this drinking and eating....If I try to get my fluids in I am not hungry for food. If I try to eat (which is not really alot) then I am not thirsty..What to doooo....I am suppose to go back to work this week, what am I gonna dooooo.. I need someone to talk tooo. Me and my husband have not talked in 3 days(yes we live in the same house) over something stupid... he said he was gonna support me but he is NOT......All I have had today so far is around 20 oz of water and I tried chicken for the first time maybe 3 or 4 small bites and 6 pieces of macaroni, I dont feel hungry but I am wondering if I ate enough my tumy is making all kinds of wierd noises and rumbling all around LOL. The foods I have been able to eat so far are not really good ones so I am not getting protein I need. Gheesh I feel like Imma cry........I am just so worried....never thought Id worry about not eating or drinking enough. I have been following my doctors food list except i did chicken today when I wasnt suppose to start till tomorrow just because that was my only food option either try some chicken or eat more pretzels. I have been feeling okay physically the last few days. I HAVE been doing my vitamins. gheesh sorry the post is soo long..((((HUGS)))))Carol.

Carol, hon, I think we're at the same point. My husband hasn't helped me do anything since the day I came home. A client had a crisis and BAM he's been with that 24 hours a day since. I feel like crap, I force myself to eat, I do everything around the house and I'm MAD. You had your surgery just two days before me so we're kinda in the same boat. I'm on Yahoo Instant Messenger and my ID is Lv2beasahm. I'm online a lot. Let's chat. Don't ever apologize for posts like this. My surgeon told me anyone who thinks they'll just sail through this all happy and everything perfect is NOT a candidate for this surgery. Find me online. I'll be happy to talk! * Cyndi *

Hey Carol, I'm sorry to hear you are having such difficulties. Have you tried protein bars or shakes yet? I was at about your stage when I realized I wasn't even getting 40Gm of protein a day. My nutritionist seemed to think this was normal and that it would be awhile until I would get there but I was tired all the time too. So I added in protein shakes and then I started to have a lot more energy. Most of the low carb shakes are only about 120 calories depending on what you mix it with and it's only about 8oz or one cup of fluid if you can gag those down you may feel better. Track your food, water and cals and talk to your nutritionist or doctor and see what they recommend. The weight loss will happen. You are probably losing inches and not aware of it. I hope you can work things out with your husband that can only be adding to your anxiety over everything. Patti

Hey Carol-- PLEASE don't apologize for posting how you feel. I've done it many times already!! I had my RNY 5 days before you...and have been feeling the same way. I just talked to a fellow post-op on the phone for 3 hours. Starting last week, I started getting in most of my protein...but yesterday and today--I didn't do good. If you go back to the "What did you eat today" posts I have made...you can see how I got it all in. I'm not excited about food either. Frankly, I have to say to myself..."Okay...it's been a few hours....time to eat your string cheese now." Today...my pouch was grumpy and so was I. Nothing sounded good...and nothing I tried went down well. I haven't hardly gotten any protein in today...and not enough fluids. Grr. It's extremely frustrating. Today I finally took my scale and put it up in the top of my closet. It can be your closest friend when you're losing everyday.....but when you haven't lost for 10 days +...it becomes your worst enemy. Today I am one month post-op....and I've lost about 34lbs. Sounds great......but I'm not happy simply because I haven't lost in a week and a 1/2. I know my body needs time to adjust...but I think I'm becoming obsessed with my weight. Before I never wanted to get on the scale...now I don't want to get off. The surgery will work for all of us if we use our tool. Just keep working on increasing your protein and increasing the fluids. I usually get up in the morning and eat or drink something right away...wait about 30 minutes and start working on a 16oz bottle of water. Once I finish that....I wait 30 minutes (or longer if it hasn't been more than 2 1/2 hours)...then I eat a snack...wait 30 minutes and start drinking again. Eating and drinking is like doing laundry now...........you don't want to do it --but you have to. Just keep working......it'll get better. I need some encouragement too.....but I thought I could lend you a little since I was where you are about a week or so ago. Hang in there. I'm often on AIM--NurseCourtney512 if you want to chat.

Hang in there Carol...I know it's hard, and some days are better and worse than others. Do what you can, and don't stress about the rest. Your body will tell you what you need to do. The surgery is just a tool to help us get started on this journey...it can't fail! Just keep that in mind. It will work, I promise! I stalled for almost 2 weeks a while back and have lost consistantly ever since. I have a WL chart on my blog if you want proof You need to not weigh yourself every day too (that goes for you too Courtney!). You're constantly fluctuating and it's just setting yourself up. So put that scale away! Big hugs coming your way!