Why is it that ONE person can make you feel bad?

Hi Mel, I called her because I really thought she was kidding since everyone else told me they could see the weight loss. Now I know she is just a really miserable person and doesn't care about people's feelings so she is off my friendship list. I don't need negative people like that in my life. I have so many friends from childhood that we still get together once a year for dinner or go away for a weekend of fun and they are more like family and they are all thin but they have never ever made me feel any different. Those are true friends! They are all so excited for me and have supported me through the surgery and without them and all of you here at OH, I couldn't have done it. Thank you for being one of my friends. Love ya, Esther

Hi Esther, Negative people are not worth the time or the space. I have noticed that people I know that are overweight are more negative toward me. I am not sure why they are like that, but I ignore them. You are doing GREAT and don't let anyone bring you down. Hugs, Kelly

Hi Kelly, I guess I just want everyone to be nice and when someone like that comes along, it shocks me. You are right, they are not worth the time or space. Thanks for making me feel better. Love ya, Esther

Honey....... You gotta dismiss comments from ignorant people like that. Don't lower yourself to even respond to those who have no more manners or compassion than she did. You are such a beautiful person, that NO ONE who sees you could ever make such a rude remark. It isn't that there is something wrong with you..................... There's something wrong with her.................. Just thank God that you are a better person than that............. "Cause, you are the best!!" I love ya karen

Hi Karen, I know....you are right and I need to just consider the source but it really hit me hard for some darn reason. I guess I am just being too sensitive and should realize that it's the wonderful people like you that is all that matters. I love you more, Esther

Hi Esther, I'm sorry that person was soo mean. I'll spend days thinking of comments that I should have said back but was too stunned to think of at the moment. Cross her off the list and keep going. Concentrate on all the other nice people at work. Hugs, Patti

Hi Patti, She has already been crossed off my list and I am going to put my energy into wonderful friends like you and everyone here that are the best. Thank you so much for being my friend. Love ya, Esther

Esther, Whatever else happens, remember that *we* know how hard you've worked and how much you've lost, and we love you. But more importantly, *you* know these things. You do not need the approval of others to see this. It's nice when you get it but you supply it yourself when others fail to. Life is too short to spend your precious time and energy on negative people. Blow it off and go do something that makes you laugh. -- T.Rob

Hi T.Rob, I am learning to ignore the rude people, it's just that I am so excited about having this surgery and having a new lease on life that when some miserable person comes along and pops my bubble, it irritates me. I am a Taurus the Bull and believe me, the friends I have are everlasting but when someone intentionally hurts me, they no longer exist. My husband gets so mad at me and says that I am too stubborn and should forgive easier and I try but if they try to hurt me on purpose, that's it for them. I have had only 3 people in my life do that to me and to this day they don't get the time of day from me. You are right, life is too short and I am over it now and am moving on to the good people like you. Love ya, Esther

Esther, Isnt it amazing how 1 person can make you feel? I'm having a hard time, because Im not losing as fast as most. I had surgery May 7.. lost 12 lbs the first week..then the last 4 weeks or so.. i have lost 3 lbs (gained a lb by todays scale). Its very discouraging. Everyone said I'd lose 30 lbs the first month..so losing 15 was really hard. And when your fat, thats not that noticable! lol Others not losing like they thought they would? Im in Spokane. Suzanne