Are you questioning yourself??

Kimberly, You are doing the right thing. I have been hearing so much negative feedback from people who are "THIN" and can eat. They don't have a clue what we go through and this is our dream come true. I am nervous, of course but I know that this is the answer to my prayers. Don't doubt yourself....you will be so happy and feel so good after the surgery that you will be glad you did it. Hugs, Esther

Karen.... I couldn't have said it better myself. I have been struggling my entire life with my weight and have been left with a low self esteem from it. I have raised my children, now with my 2 little grandchildren, I want to be here to watch them grow up also. I want to be able to go outside and play with them. I would like to be able to be alive for once in my life. Last week, my daughter (who is 25 and very active) and I went to a baseball game. We walked 6 blocks from the parking garage to the stadium. I loved the game, but could not possibly keep up with her on that walk. My legs hurt so bad the next day that I couldn't stand to walk. These are some of my reasonings... One of my goals, next year when we go to a game, I will beat her to the front gate..... Good luck on your journey... My surgery is May 1st, hopefully all of us Maysters will reach our optimum goals.... Good Luck to All.........

I have another sister!! Esther (above) and I have discovered we are near the same age and share a lot!! I am also a single mother (by choice) of 3 and Grandmother to 3. I took my son and oldest grandson to a Razorback/Tennessee football game last Nov in Fayetteville, AR and had to walk about 12 blocks from where we parked to the stadium................. I was exhausted!! Whew.................Rough on this ole back that I keep putting surgery off on!! And, then we were packed like sardines in the seats............ I kept thinking that the man next to me was thinking........."You might know I'd be stuck next to a fat lady!!" LOL I told him in TN they always say at a football game, when one person stands up, everybody stands up 'cause of how packed it is!! ha May 1st. huh?? You will be a May Basket baby!! Congrats on getting your approval, just remember that the young girls on here don't realize how sweet this will be for those of us who have wanted this so long!! Keep in touch..............you'll be in my prayers! Karen

God bless you Karen............I have an older sister who has been doing everything she can to deter me from this...........calling me stupid......i should just push myself away from the table......etc......etc.....etc, thank you for stating the obvious and much too hard to find in my brain when my "loved ones" go out of their way to make me feel like such a failure!!! God bless and keep you safe on this journey we have taken on Hugs Kat

You're not a failure, honey.................... When you seek a solution to a problem that you can't solve by yourself, that's simply intelligent........................ Those that aren't, can't comprehend!! http://www.singingfool.com/default.asp?frame=/musicvideo.asp%3Fpublishedid%3D25640 Sing it to the rooftops!!................. You are officially on my list of May baies who are gonna set the world on fire. Just remember to tell others about OH.............. Angels really do frequent this site!!................... Blessings!!.....Karen

God Bless you Kat, Just remember that we are all here together helping each other. Karen is probably the sweetest human being I have ever met and she has already helped me get through some nervous struggles. We are all here for you and you are not a failure. Don't ever let anyone make you feel that way. You can prove to them how wonderful you are by believing in yourself and after you have this surgery and look and feel good, they will see that they made a mistake making you feel bad. YOU ARE SPECIAL! Love and hugs, Esther

Thank you Karen, This is a good reminder. Right now, I am scared to death....

Oh my. I've heard that I'm selfish/ridiculous/lazy/etc. It's funny almost. Unless you've walked using my reconstructed knees with all this darned weight, how can I be judged? My dad is about my biggest cheerleader right now. He's pretty darned excited for me. A mom at dance had her RNY last March and she looks fabulous! How can I be selfish if I want to be the VERY BEST mom I could be? If that's selfish, then I'm gonna be REALLY selfish. I'm gonna be the absolute healthiest mommy I can be. Best wishes to you all! * Cyndi *

Go Cyndi!! Yeah! Yeah! Go Cyndi....................

Isn't it funny though. All our lives we've been ridiculed for our weight. lol Then we go and seek out this amazing journey......and we're ridiculed again. lol My husband has gained a LOT of weight since moving up here. We met pre-Internet on one of those old BBS things. We'll be married 12 years in October. His mother has done nothing but complain about his weight. She doesn't DARE get on me or I'll go Yankee on her butt. But, all this time *SHE* was overweight! She lost a lot of weight because her doctor jumped all over her and what she was doing with her diabetes. I BEGGED him not to tell her about my surgery. Obviously I told my folks since they live close and would be taking on some after-school running for my daughter since the hospital I'll be in is about an hour away. My dad is THRILLED. My mom is nervous. Of course her top weight ever is 125. LOL What the heck does she know. But, it's her side of the family that's always treated me like crap. I want to get to goal, see them one final time and tell them to smooch my by then small backside. When they get to be too much, come here to OH and just find ANY of your friends here. Overload your friend area with people you can talk to. WE understand your nervousness, frustration, apprehension, fear, etc. WE love you and WE will cheer every single pound lost never to be found again. I feel so blessed I found this site and without it I don't think I'd be embarking on this adventure. But, I'm thrilled to be taking it with you all! * Cyndi *