This is Mortifying

Ok so i'm on a web board asking peoples opinions. Anyone have a different libido after surgery? I have no urge for sex what so ever and really it's baffling to me and no one seems to be concerned except for me (the ob/gyn says it happens the surgeon shrugs my regular doctor keeps referring me back to the others) ANDI

Right there with ya, babe! I have no sex drive whatsoever. Once we get "into the act" I enjoy it. But I just have no desire to even start. I could care less! I could totally go without ... I asked my doctor about it and he said everyone fluctuates and give it time. Gee, that helps! Deanna

the challenge for me is that "the act" is no longer fun like it was and that bothers me. I had this surgery so i could get back my old life, that includes relations now i can go forever with out it and so can the hubby so really we're rather doomed feeling. ANDI

Well, my husband wants it all the time and I never want it ... so it makes for some awkward fights between us. I have my 2 year check up coming up so I probably should prod my doctor for some better advice! Deanna

Psychological factors Reduction in libido can occur from psychological causes such as loss of privacy and/or intimacy, stress, distraction or depression. It may also derive from the presence of environmental stressors such as prolonged exposure to elevated sound levels or bright light. A comprehensive list of stressors include: * depression * stress or fatigue * paranoia * childhood sexual abuse, assault, trauma, or neglect. * body image issues * lack of interest/attraction in partner * sexual performance anxiety http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Libido hmmm I can see all the above! except maybe paranoia... heehee

Yep, me too. Once I'm 'warmed up' I'm ok but really could take it or leave it! Trouble is hubbie has always been like that so there isn't much action going on at all lately! I know for me it has alot to do with body image and how I feel totally un sexy with all the skin issues. I read on other message boards that others libido goes through the roof after wls - so what's different about Maybies 06?

My hubby doesn't have much of a libido either.....man we seem to be once again so alike. I used to blame myself..i was too heavy but maybe it's just a hormonal thing because he's simply not htat interested and really never was. Once the "i do's" happened suddenly he didn't anymore. Probably alot of fodder for therapy but i'm not going back. ANDI

Ditto!

I am single and am not looking, so a libido is not even an issue, but I know some of the people on my local board either go sex mad, almost jumping anyone that moves, or they lose it all completely. No middle ground at all. Weird eh?

I'd like it to be a not an issue here too and I used to be more sexually aggressive now I feel completely devoid of any sexual energy and it's making me a bit sad. ANDI