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Hi Gang, Well I havent posted in ages because I felt like I was the only one who wasnt at goal 1 1/2 years out now and it depressed me. I went to a support group meeting last Saturday and I feel SOOOO MUCH BETTER about the successes and decided to stop belittling myself for being human. I weigh between 195-200 depending on the time of day etc. but you ALL KNOW when I see the scale start with the number 2 - I drink some serious water all day long until that scale consistently reads 195-------------but I cant seem to drop below that. Now I dont know exactly HOW, but I decided if meeting people who are in the same boat as me could lift my spirits to try harder and be more positive I thought I CAN STILL DO THIS!!! AM I RIGHT????? I can still meet my goal of 170 lbs. I "where it well" as everyone who knows me says, because no one believes I weigh so close to 200lbs now. But I tell ya, I really want to make my goal - even when I slip and eat 2 mini candy bars on halloween night, that Istole from my kids. I still believe in myself - but I had just forgotten how to until I was reminded where I came from ( 342 lbs) and how DAMN good I look and feel now. HaHaHa Kathryn

YAY!! Good for you Kathryn Great way to look at your amazing acheivement so far - glad the support group helped. It is so easy to get down on ourselves when we haven't reached the goal we have set for ourselves isn't it. I'm frustrated as I always imagined myself at a size 10 with the body of a teenager - I am now beginning to realise how improbably the goal is. I am a size 12 - 14 and loo****in clothes) You have reminded me to look at myself how others see me - as someone who is the right weight, not overweight, even though I know the reality that according to some 'scientist' chart I am sitll overweight. I've been eating halloween candy - but I have enjoyed it, whereas before wls I would probably not even tasted most of it You're right Kathryn, we CAN do this, and I'm sure you do look DAMN good too!!!

Kathryn, You know your post came at just the right time. I was gonna post and feel sorry for myself because no matter what I do I weigh 165. If I eat right and exercise like a crazy person or if I take two weeks off (due to 3 broken toes!) and eat horribly I still weigh 165. I think my body just likes this weight. So, your post has made me realize that yes, to most people I look just fine, yes, I have come a long way and yes I am way more critical of myself BUT that I still want to lose that last 10lbs...and that Yes WE can do it! I wish I could find a support group around me. I've searched and there is one but it really is not very productive. Only about 3 people go and they are much older and are like 6-10 years post op with no agenda or speakers. Trish

Don't feel alone.I am just about my 18 months out and cannot reach my goal either!! I get really depressed about it,too. But I like some of the other ones on here am stuck at a weight,too! I wear a 12-14 and am happy about that....but I would really at least say I lost 100 pounds!!! So close but so far away!!~~~We have a support group here and have been thinking of trying it out once just to see how everyone else has turned out. YOU have come a long way starting at the weight you started and you should feel very proud of that! I started at 277 and I cannot get that darn scale to go under 185...!!! But all of us have to admit that we are all losers and are proud of what we have done!! Good job everyone!!

No offense is meant by this to anyone, and please don't take this the wrong way, but it is soooo frustrating to see others getting to their goal and some of us being stuc****ven though I am sooooo proud of them for doing well) BUT...as has been said, we need to look at this in perspective and see just how far we have come and be proud of ourselves, while still keeping our eyes on where we want to get to.

Ruth, You are so right. Let's all remember that statistically the RNY will lose 60-70% of EXCESS body weight. Therefore, anyone who meets that %age has achieved the standard weight loss as defined by the American Society of Metabolic and Bariatric Surgeons and the National Institute of Health. When we surpass that standard we will fall into the elite group of "over achievers". I consider all of us to be in this group. There are many ways to measure our success, exclusive of number of pounds lost. Think of the health conditions that have been improved, if not eliminated. think of the future health risks that we've eliminated by weight reduction. As we grow "old" in post-op SWL years, keep on track and be thankful for all we've accomplished and for the additional years of life we have regained by improving our health. Here's of all of us!!!! Cheers

Wow!! You're right...I've just calculated my %age loss of excess weight and I have lost 80%. I never realised it was so much. That has really cheered me up I'm not a failure -I'm an over-achiever WOOHOOOOOOO....................

You came from 342!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you have done wonderfully!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what I weigh, and others, and you ,are all different!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't explain it.... we all have the tool to work for us, we are not perfect...(none of us!) but we can re-start so to speak when we need to, and I believe that our bodies will adjust to what we should be... and that will be different for all of us.... so I say YIPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you have done a great job!!!!!!!!!!!!!