An Interesting Question - think about it before answering

Someone asked me the other day, if you met your husband today (as a single woman) would he still be your ideal mate...i said what makes you think I think he's my ideal mate now? I answered quickly and we both laughed, but it poses an interesting question. If i met my husband now, he'd see a much stronger, more confident woman...would HE still be attracted to that? He'd see a woman who would want sex more often and would not be tolerant of the catch what catch can sex life we have now, would HE still be attracted to that? He'd be looking at a body that has been ravaged by time and (4) kids, i'm not even attracted by it how could he be? My husband makes me laugh like no one else on this earth can, that is a HUGE thing for me. We definitely don't make love that much anymore (read into that at all lately) but i'm guilty of not starting it either so is it really his fault? I have absolutely no libido and no energy, it scares me a bit! He definitely does NOT make enough money to keep me in the luxury i'd like to become accustomed to, but I knew this going into it so really, shame on who? Would you be with your mate if you met him/her now? Andi

great question Andi and made me think. I'm going to be very sickly here ~ My hubbie is my soul mate. The most important thing is that he makes me laugh, he puts up with me, and supports me 100%. He totally 'gets' me. That said, it's a two way street and it works both ways ~ we both are good for each other. When it works right we balance each other. It needs constant work, but when we get it it's great. I say we are ideal for each other now and always have been. I don't think weight loss has changed me too much - life in general over the years has, but we have gone through the rough together and grown together through it. We too have left the regular sex behind - my mind regrets this but my body is now relieved!! Somehow I left my libido behind with all the weight I've left behind. But that works for us at the moment. I'm hoping it's a temporary thing...... So yes, I fancy my man even more now than I did when we first started dating and got married. I think the same goes for him too (well when I asked him that's what he said ). Thankfully he fancied/loved me when I was fat and he fancies/loves me now - even though I think my body looks much worse naked now than it did before I lost weight!