I know a man

Well guys.. this is just a reality check of what can happen. I know this guy who had wls about 2 1/2 years ago.. He lost all but 30 pounds of his goal.. He has now gain almost all of it back and at the rate he is going that last 40 pounds that he lost will be back as well.. He is back to taking insulin for his diabetes. It is not that he eats that much at each setting it is that he snacks all day. He likes cheetos and they dont take up much room but are full of calories. he will eat bags of them each day.. big bags. he will eat every hour which would be a normal size meal for us. it is sad to see. When I talk to him he says he needs to get back to basics. I have given him protein.. talked.. given him recipe books I made but still he continues to gain. The moral of this story is.. we can get back to where we were if we don****ch out.. He wants to stop but doesnt pull the trigger to better health. Before long he will be the same as when he started. It's sad to see. I hope and pray for him but I can not change what he does.. it has to be him. Just food for thought you all.. reality checks are sometimes a good thing. Carla

hard to fathom but i know it can happen! You can't help someone like that and you have to accept that. A

And the moral of the story is ~ to use this journey to heal not only the size of yrou body, but to heal wholesticly, body, mind and spirit. The man sounds like he has not addressed several issues of why he became obese in the first place. It is a very sad story. I got asked by a friend, what will happen to the skin if all the weight (and more) gets put back on, particularly if someone has had a tummy tuck, etc.? She actually wondered if the skin 'pops' ? Any ideas?

I also know a woman who has gain a bit of her weight back and had a tummy tuck. She looks un-natural.... yes.. it is weird. the lower area of her stomach is snug and that at the surgical site it just pops out.. it looks nasty. It's like the bottom half didnt stretch out like before but stayed tight while the top half started accomidating the weight.. I never want to look like she does.

Oh gosh, this is my greatest fear! I soooooo don't want this to happen to me! I look at it this way ... this surgery gave me the chance to start over. I know where I once was and I do NOT want to go back to that spot in my life. I know what I need to do to stay where I'm at now. It's a matter of making the correct choices to keep me here. Thank you for the reminder!!! I need that to help keep me in line! Deanna

OH god Carla, how sad for your friend. My surgeon said that as long as i am "afraid" that I will gain my weight back..I am 50% more likely to not gain it back. He said people who get ****y and start thinking.. I can just eat whatever I want and I'll always be skinny now..those are the one's who tend to gain the weight back. Also folks who were not warned that they need to deal with the reason they over eat before surgery.. are less likely to be successful afterwards. I was an emotional eater, now I have to find other ways to deal with that.. I"m starting to go running when I have the blues or mean reds well up. That helps..and I fell so much better afterwards..much better than I woudl feel if I stuffed my face with junk. I won't lie..sometimes I fall off the wagon, but this wonderful pouch doesn't allow me to do too much damage..however.. the caveat is that I also know that will not always be the case.. and I need to be careful and not fall off the horse too often, or I will be to heavy to get back on that steed. jess

I have such a fear of that!, my family is afraid I am getting to small... but I am healthy and "normal" weight. I am so careful what I eat. I am not perfect, but can honestly say that 95% of the time that fear keeps me on track.

I totally agree with you. my honey moon is over and now I am back to where I was as far as nibbles and it could go up hill in a heart beat, already I noticed that my clothes are fitting more tightly, but I flat refuse to go back. each day I resolve to stick to the basics and hope for the best. yesterday was a HORRIBLE stricture day. today was interesting breakfast: cream of wheat 24 oz tea lunch: (sample tables at grocery store) micro slice of pizza 2 cheery tidbits 6 oz tea dinner: 1 hardshell chicken taco with cheese, sour cream, and mushrooms 16 oz propel tv dessert: 28 oz tea 3 chocolate / caramel covered peanut clusters