I've been M.I.A

Hey Guys, I've really been missing in action, I've had a lot of crap going on. My daughters illness has become worst she's now on home dialysis, I lost my mother-in-law and my dad in March to massive heart attacks within 3 weeks of each other.................I guess that lead to the final straw of my already rocky marriage................we've been separated since April or so. I hit a couple of bad plateaus, I'm A FIGHTER though back to the gym regularly............I JUST made it to my 1 year post op appt TODAY!!!! My doc says I'm doing well, and he wants to see me again in a couple of months and wants me to have off an additional 16-20 lbs!!! I'm down -116, some days it 118-120, the same 3-6 pounds come and go! I've lost 12 inches total on my waist. I hope everyone is well!!

wow you have been though allot, Glad you are back! I hope things even out for you.... You do look marvelous darling...!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(((((((Diva))))))))))))) i'm so sorry for all the nonsense you are going through. I'll say a prayer for you and your family. I haven't been to my one year appointment, it's on my list of things to do though! I hope that you have a good weekend and that you keep fighting the good fight, the rest of us are doing the same! ANDI

condolences on your personal losses and congratulations on your weight losses. heehee that sounds crazy. good luck on those extra pounds. they are pesky all I can say is that it does get better. kat

I've just been reading your profile - my goodness what you and your family have been through and are still going through. I wish there was something I could say or do to 'make it better'. Sadly there isn't. But it is so great to hear through your words your positive attitude and inner strength. You truely are an amazing woman. My prayers are with you and your family, and I look forward to seeing more of you posting here when you have the time. hugs Ruth

HI Sweetie, I too have taken a step back from the boards due to alot of crap going on in my personal life! But oh my at what you have had to deal with the last few months! Sometimes life can be so hard and this has just been a hard year for everyone I know. I guess you just have to keep going! My heart truely goes out to you!!! First let me say Deepest sympathies to you for your losses! Second Children truely do handle things better than we adults, she is a strong little girl with a compassionate heart and you will take care of each other!! My son had surgery 6 weeks ago and has been laid up for most of the summer & has 6 more weeks to go! He has learned to get around the house in more creative ways than one!!HEHE you have to grin! Our children are our hearts! My prayers will be with you as you continue to be the strong wonderful woman,mother,sister, friend that you are! Keep your chin up!! The weight loss will kick back in just work it like you know how to! Remember to take care of you! HUGS to you and your baby! Missy

MISSY!!!!!!!!!!!! It is SO good to see you again - it has been too long. Sounds like you and your family have had a tough time too. I hope things are going better now - please feel able to share / offload here with friends on the board. It's not just about weight loss here, it's about life

HI Ruth, Thanks!!! Yes it has been a rough year! At the beginning of July I was claiming a better second half of the year but so far not happening. I know its not just about weight loss here! But I am the doer in my family have been since I was a little girl-my mom was a single mom & I am the oldest (always the responsible one- sigh) One day I am just gonna bust loose and do something so crazy and they are all gonna think I have went crazy! or maybe I will just run away . Well to make a long story short- We had a tornado hit our home & our 4 car garage behind our home was destroyed (totally leveled) on April 3rd. Home was still liveable, but our insurance yanked us around for 7 weeks on if they were going to pay u*****t-they tried to find every loop hole, we had to get an attorney.That is now settled& we are in the process of rebuilding. In the middle of all this I took a new position at work-alot to learn! We had 2 deaths in the family-my uncle, my spouses aunt. My son had to have surgery on his foot for a genetic defect-rod going through the top of his big toe into his foot to straighten his foot up-no weight bearing for 6 weeks (so hard to keep a 12 yr old down)! My mother has been in the hospital twice in the last month once for a week & half & then again this week for 4 days. She has custody of 3 of my sisters kids so guess who ended up with all the children - yep ME! I so love them though its not the kids fault! but I went from 1 kid to 4- 2-12yr olds, 4 & 2. (just don't know how all you mothers with multiple children handle it all-WHEW I AM TIRED). Two of them had a stomach virus this week- I know life is hard but I have never had this much happen in a span of 3-4 months. I almost let it overwhelm me! I am working on that! I just didn't think I could be of much support so I took a step back-didn't want to be a taker when I couldn't be a giver. ya know! I have been lurking occasionally to check up on my surgery buddies when time allows!Have been keeping you all in my prayers & cheering you all on! The good thing is I am 4 lbs from my Dr's goal and feel great enough physically to handle all of this. I have introduced a few of my old comfort foods due to stress and convience but I recognize it & will get back to routine as soon as things calm down.As I told Diva we know what to do we just have to work it.When I see things like what Diva is going through with her little girl I have to step back take a deep breath and not let my life overwhelm me! It just touched my heart as a mother I can't imagine what she is going through! Thanks for letting me unload! You are always so sweet & understanding! Hope all is well with you and your family. Hope you are enjoying your break! ~HUGS Missy~

Oh my goodness Missy! You've been going through so much. PLease dont' think you can't lean on us. We all need to be takers sometimes, we know you aren't a 'taker' type without giving at other times. Its' those who NEVER give that annoy me, expecting us to give, but I so want to be here for those of us who need the time. It's a balance of give and take that makes relationships work. I for one have had times when I have been a taker here and I certainly couldnt' have made it through those times without leaning on my Maybie friends I do realise though that time has been precious for you of late. It's great to hear you are so close to goal. As you say, you can always get back to routine when you have space to breath. You obviously are doing things right, even introducing comfort foods as you haven't gained loads back! Imagine going through all this before you'd lost all your weight! I hope, and pray that, as you say, the second half of the year is better than the first, and that you are able to find places of santuary and peace in your hectic schedule. Hugs Ruth

Thanks Ruth! I just couldn't imagine doing all this 104lbs ago!I am exhausted now but its an emotional exhaustion not physical which I am soooo Thankful for now! I will try to lean a little more on you all and give a little more too! I am so computer illiterate I can't remember my password to get on oh at home so I can only lurk at home! work computer remembers my user name & password so I get on occasionally to lurk here when we get new employees they abuse the internet and then we get policed and told we can't be on it. It comes & goes! Luckily I have a friend in high places that warns me of the police(hehe).When I get to where I can breath I will figure out the home computer-I soooo need to update my profile & pics. I also have to start thinking of my hernia repair so I know there is more to come in the near future but I will not borrow from tomorrows troubles! You are always so sweet & supportive & know just what to say! Thanks again ~Missy~