QOTD

What is the one thing about yourself that you would like to change physically and or emotionally? I want boos and less sagging skin for my physical change. Emotionally I would like to grow a back bone so I can stand up for myself more. I resent people for walking all over me.. Andi is my mentor in this area.. go andi.. I am trying..

you HAVE the backbone Carla what you need to do is steel it so that you can get what you need and deserve out of life and not be the welcome mat! Physically: I'd like the pouch below my belly to go away and for a moment let's discuss crotches. I think my "girly zone" went to heck in a handbasket with itself. that area is droopy and thankfully i've got total sensation in it but boy oh boy it's not pretty Emotionally: this is a tough one for me because i basically like the woman i've become. I'd like to be less "off the cuff" i'd rather think things through and then answer instead of the "filters off" if it's in my head it out my mouth. Does that make any sense to you? I'd also like to be more diplomatic, if i don't like you there's no way i could pretend that i did and in business that's definitely a detriment. ANDI

you are so great andi.. diplomacy is a tough one isnt it. I have had to work on that myself but for the most part dont say anything so I dont get in trouble.. lol.. Now when I do speak up is when I do get in trouble because it's usually when I get so fed up with it I have TOO MUCH TO SAY... i have a back bone but.... I need to start exercising it like i do my body.. maybe that will work.

Physically ... I need to have a major breast reduction, in a very major way! I also need some work on my stomach flab, which is quite severe. I'd like to have my arms and thighs done too but they are no where near as awful as my chest and stomach! Emotionally ... I'm extremely insecure. I wish I had all the confidence in the world to hold my head up high, look people in the eyes, and do everything I want to do. But I'm very introverted and tend to shy away from new things. I also get walked all over too. Deanna

Deanna, I felt you wrote what I was thinking. All the above (except Breast reduction! mine are fine.) Emtionally the same thing here too! I wish I had the confidence. My friends tell me that I am getting more confident, but I could still you a lot of work in that area!

When you say "i'm very introverted and tend to shy away from new things" you have just given yourself carte blanche to remain that way, you can make changes slowly but keep making them. I will smile at (6) new people today, i will make eye contact with clerks in retail establishments, small, obtainable goals is the way to go. ANDI

Hey Deanna I think you should actually count up all the new things you've done in the past year...you have done so much, I bet it's more than you realise...running, running a marathon (yes they count as separate things, running a marathon is HUGE!!) spin class, etc etc etc.

Physically.....would love to have a boob job!! Get rid of my bat wings and I guess everything else that sags!!! Will have to have an all over makeover!!! Emotionally......Be less secure, have allot more confidence,always had a problem with excepting compliments...

skin I hate the skin, its gross and my boobs are like deflated balloons... emotionally I would like to be more confident in myself

Get rid of my belly fat, have a but inplant (it was none existant before WLS, now it's nowhere to be seen!! hee hee), I love my boobs, but they desparately need lifting, thighs need lifting too. Oh sorry it was supposed to be one thing...I've got a whoel shopping list still to add Emotionally, I would like to not feel inferior to people most of the time. Even though I have confidence in myself and know I can do things well, with other people I feel like I am the younger, more inexperienced one, the less educated, the less knowledgable, etc, etc, etc. (hmm...mindyou NOT less capable though, which is interesting!) Maybe it comes from being the youngest of 4 girls?