Feels like I've given up

I don't know what is going on with me. I got within 5lbs of goal...went up 3lbs and I can't or haven't seriously tried to get it off. I make horrible choices. I eat out EVERYDAY. I can tell I am eating MORE at each meal plus snacking! I drink alcohol... Am I believing everyone when they say that I am done losing? Is it that I am just tired of counting and watching everything I eat? Did I mentally shut down? Now I am freaking out cause I really want to go see the surgeon next week at or a little below his goal...that's 8lbs from now. I know go back to basics...stop snacking...drink my water...exercise...I know the rules, I know what to do, I just don't have the "getty up" to do it. Help!!!! Trish

actually... my recommendation, is take a vacation from your GOAL. I stopped fussing in February, and then in March I was back on track. now I did not go completely insane, but I did give myself a much needed break. so I had a slice of pizza instead of a slice of steak, a serving of spaghetti instead of a serving of chicken. but it was not every day, it was once a week. the dietitian this week said: instead of 100 calories sugar free ice cream every night this week, bank up and have one 250 calorie regular ice cream on Friday. Make it ia treat, and save your self 450 calories this week. it is worth a thought. Kat 275/145 (up 2lbs from last week, 5 below goal)

I know the feeling.. i want to loose another 5/8 pounds myself. I am not following all my rules either with the ice cream.. I know I reached my goal and people are telling me to stop loosing so I think in the back of my mind I am done. It still drives me crazy not to get to that next goal, but i accept where i am and move on.. you need to look and see how much you really want to loose that 8 pounds.. if you really want to.. than you need to make the choice to keep going. If you are happy where you are be honest and let it go.. struggling with this is tough.. we are so use to either dieting or eating food.. trying to maintain is scary.. I think thats why i want to keep loosing just so I dont have to say ok im done.. what now...

Oh Trish I know so how you feel!! I am allot more away from my goal than you and I can't do it either!! You are doing so good!!! I know I don't eat right,I snack instead of eating a meal at times.... I can drink achohol now,too.... Never was much of a drinker before,but I think now that I feel so much better about myself, I like to go out once in awhile and and have fun! Theres nothing wrong with that. Now if you are replacing your meals with drinks....then you may have a problem! I get so upset with myself because I feel like I am done losing,too..I think I am STUCK at this weight forever! But anywayjust wanted to let you know that you are NOT alone! Karen

Hey guys...come on!!! You have been on this new eating for a WHOLE YEAR!!! You have done a fantastic job. Have you ever stuck to a 'diet' for that long? I know I haven't. Cut yourselves some slack. We should be celebrating the fact that we have come this far, not getting down on ourselves for what we havent' done yet. Our bodies sometimes need vacations. Does this mean we go crazy and eat everything in sight? Uh, no. But it does mean that we can have a break for a short while. I think you should mentally give yourself a vacation. Set yourself a time limit - liek you would when booking time off work for example. You wouldn't just go off work on a vacation and not arrange a date when you have to go back now would you. So, having decided how long a vacation you are going to take (1 day, few days, 1 week?), then enjoy your vacation. My opinion is that once you stop thinking all the time about reaching a certian goal and what you can and can't eat, you will relax, your body will relax and when you do come off vacation life will be a whole lot easier. That's my two cents - for what it's worth!! Don't forget - life is for living

amen sister....don't think i could have said it better myself! aNDI

I'm still 55 pounds from goal. I know what I need to do to make that happen. The problem is I'm choosing not to do it. I know I need to some grilled chicken instead of Rice-a-roni but I make the conscious decision to make and eat the rice-a-roni. It almost like a self sabotage but I have no clue why. I have found I can tolerate chocolate (snickers, reese's cups) in small amounts. The problem is I'll have a small amount now then a small amount 2 hours later. The whole time I'm telling myself you don't need to be doing this. So like you...I know what I need to do but I'm making the choices not to. I feel so aggrevated with myself. Mandy

I think Ruth said it very well!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you are how small now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ya know, you are not alone, you sound a little like i am trying to "turn" into again, but i am resisting, it is hard but i am staying strong, why are these things happening, because the surgery took care of our weight but most of us DEFINETLY MYSELF have yet to take care of our HEADS (ya know, the thing that got us in trouble in the first place), you sound somewhat like you fell into the trap i started falling into and that is you are within 5lbs of your goal (i am with in 18) and instead of focusing on the fantastic job you did losing so much and being successful, u r focusing on the fact that you "failed" which is ridiculous, you have done(as i have) a great terrific and fantastic job at this weight loss..give yourself a break, you realize what you are doing is wrong and soon you will get yourself back on track, do the things that need to be done, u know the answers, heck you said them in your post...you want to do the right thing, you wouldnt be here asking if you didnt care about yourself..you will right the ship...just dont beat yourself up, and by the way..to heck with the goal the DOCTOR set for you, are you looking good at the weight you are now?? Be happy and you will naturally do what needs to be done, your family here will support you....for when the times get tough like now..remember, you are allowed to love yourself and be happy, take advantage of this new life and it will straighten itself out.....